The Art of Doing Nothing … on Vacation

I am a planner.

My life (for the most part) is planned to the best of my abilities.

Even the “risks” that I take are very well calculated; I have likely already measured the pros/cons/ups/downs of every situation.

Fortunately, when you’re in a different country than your own … you don’t have a lot of control over things and all of things you try to control turn to shit and a blow up in your face.

Well, at least this has been a learning experience.

There are two things I strongly dislike:

  1. Uncertainty
  2. Wasting time

Life is short, why would I spend it “not knowing what’s next” or sitting around watching the day go by?

I’ve learned during my Radical Sabbatical these types of days are necessary.

You need to be curious and wonder what is coming up next? It keeps you on your toes; it keeps life exciting.

You also need days of doing absolutely nothing and stay inside; and when I say nothing, I mean nothing. No laundry, no dishes, no cleaning, heck – no cooking (every Filipino relative will be clutching their pearls seeing that).

Of all the places to learn about doing nothing, I learned it in the most unusual instance: while on vacation.

Flying over the Northern Territories, Australia
(February 7, 2020)

I’ve been going on weekend getaways that I call my, “Vacation from my Holiday” for the last few weeks.

Back in Canada, I would NEVER go away for the weekend.

I couldn’t fathom it, after all, traveling province to province is super expensive via air travel. I’ve also been in school for so long that weekends were meant for homework.

Yet here I am, in the country of my dreams and for the longest while – working my four days a week, then spending the long weekend I was privileged to negotiate … at home.

So, it was time to travel.

At the start of the year, I kicked off a trip down to Melbourne which was amazing and put a lot of things into perspective; like letting go of money and actually travel around Australia.

I purchased tickets to some areas of the country I had wanted to visit for some time:

  1. Yulara, Northern Territories to see Uluru (Ayers Rock)
  2. Gold Coast, Queensland to take on Australia’s highest external building climb (I don’t know why I do these things, I’m afraid of heights)

Yulara, Northern Territories

My Cousin-in-Law, Mark drove me out to the airport.

While waiting for my flight to take off, I watched this crazy foreigner mansplain to the gate agent how to do her job – screaming at her because he wasn’t aware of Jetstar’s strict 7kg combined carry on baggage weight limit and asked if, “is there was a man who I can speak to?”

Well, I wasn’t have it and I walked over to him as he was screaming at her and said, “Hi, excuse me. Couldn’t help but notice the misogyny over here. She told you to pay the $60 for your excess baggage, just pay it and sit down so we can board the plane.”

I was given an exit seat in the isle with extra leg room and complimentary meal vouchers! Eyyyyyyyyyyy!

(it pays off to speak up when no one else does)

The flight was comfortable, quite spacious as there were not a lot of people on the flight.

However, upon getting out of the plane, my clothes clung to me thanks to the 40 degree Celsius heat.

Not comfortable.

Ayers Rock Airport
Northern Territories, Australia
(February 7, 2020)

The accommodations in Yulara are limited. There are no Airbnb’s (something I wish I knew before I booked the trip), so you have some choices when choosing Ayers Rock Resort – specifically the Outback Pioneer Hotel & Lodge (comfort and best value)

When I walked out of the bus to my hotel, I was greeted by a fly going into my mouth.

Yep.

So apparently, a fly look for moisture wherever it can, hence why they love your face; they want to go into your ears, eyes, nose, and mouth.

How do you protect yourself?

Well, there’s bug spray … but that doesn’t really do anything, so you’re encouraged to wear one of these fashionable fly nets.

Does this Fly Net match my outfit?
Yulara, Northern Territories
(February 7, 2020)
A Fly Net won’t stop me from taking a photo
Yulara, Northern Territories
(February 8, 2020)

Another thing about Yulara is that you pay quite a fee to do just about anything there. There are a couple of free activities; but for the most part, you’re paying for everything (check out Get Your Guide for all the excursions) and at an increased price as deliveries to the area are limited due to its isolated area.

Nevertheless, they rely on tourists to help their economy … so GO!

Prices are based off the peak season; so May – October are the best times to go as the climate is more moderate (Winter is busier than Summer).

There is no need to rent a car, almost every excursion you book has shuttle service from outside your hotel, so it’s important:

  1. To call the company do confirm your booking and time of pick up
  2. To coordinate once more with the front desk as times may have changed

My first excursion of the trip was to see Uluru (Ayers Rock) up close (you also need to buy a $25 pass to visit the rock; it’s a separate cost)!

I’ve heard stories about Uluru from my Grade 2/3 Teacher, Mrs. Williams years ago.

There was a time when you could climb Uluru, however the it became a controversy with the First Nations of the area and you can no longer climb it (which is a good thing, trust me).

Like I said earlier, make sure you purchase your National Park Pass for the days you choose to visit!

My first excursions was to do the Uluru 1.5-Hour Sunset Tour with Sparkling Wine & Cheeseboard.

I opted for this as it was the most affordable and purchased a Pizza and some French Fries when I got back to the hotel (so worth it).

It is CRITICAL that you wear your fly mask when you go to Uluru. Just to get the photo ops was a struggle as the flies were so bad in this area of Yulara.

Smiling had to be timed as they would fly into your mouth if it was open for too long.

The “Yulara Salute” is literally you waving your hands to try and swat away flies as they go near the openings of your face. To protect my open wine glass and mouth from flies, I was chugging wine like nobody’s business.

I was still fortunate to capture some shots before the fly net went back on at Uluru:

Uluru at Sunset (yes, wine included – at least with my excursion)
Uluru, Northern Territories
(February 7, 2020)
Uluru at Sunset (yes, wine included – at least with my excursion)
Uluru, Northern Territories
(February 7, 2020)

The next day, I woke up early for a tour of the Australian Outback with one of the best forms of transport available: Camel.

Boof the Camel
Uluru Camel Tours
Yulara, Northern Territories
(February 8, 2020)

Surprisingly, camels roam in the wild in Australia. They were brought to the county back in the early days of forming for commutes in the outback; delivering mail for Australia Post or doing supply runs for the locals.

They’re able to survive with their population continuing the grow because they’re one of the only animals in Australia that do not have a predator.

It is encouraged that you do not explore the outback without an expert guide, and walking it can be very long and can take a toll on the body – so this camel tour is highly recommended!

Camel Tour
Uluru, Northern Territories
(February 8, 2020)
Uluru Camel Tours
Yulara, Northern Territories
(February 8, 2020)
Camel Tour
Uluru, Northern Territories
(February 8, 2020)

So, here’s the thing about being in Yulara.

It’s hot.

Like, super hot.

I’ve never experienced a place where the moment you walk outside, you instantly begin to sweat (it’s worse than humid Manila, Philippines).

It’s an extremely uncomfortable heat – and as someone who doesn’t like hot weather (I know, and I chose to live in Australia), the heat and I battled it out and I succumbed to it.

So, when I wasn’t busy with an excursion, I did something I’ve never done before on a holiday: I laid in my air conditioned hotel room and did absolutely nothing.

I ordered room service, watched TV shows: re-runs of classic sitcoms, the Democratic Primaries, and random comedy/action/dramatic movies. Then, when I was bored of that, I napped.

I’ve never felt so relaxed on a vacation.

I usually jam pack my holidays with different excursions and adventures, they are times become more exhausting that relaxing.

This is also why I usually travel alone: I want the freedom to do whatever I want, when I want, and not have to compromise.

In the evening, I chose to go on one of Yulara’s most popular excursions: Field of Lights.

The description of the experience from the website is:

“As darkness falls and Uluru is thrown into silhouette, Field of Light illuminates. As far as the eye can see gentle rhythms of colour light up the desert.

The critically acclaimed Field of Light Uluru by the internationally celebrated artist Bruce Munro is on display and due to popular demand, has now been extended indefinitely.

The exhibition, aptly named Tili Wiru Tjuta Nyakutjaku or ‘looking at lots of beautiful lights’ in local Pitjantjatjara is Munro’s largest work to date.

Overwhelming in size, covering more than seven football fields, it invites immersion in its fantasy garden of 50,000 spindles of light, the stems breathing and swaying through a sympathetic desert spectrum of ochre, deep violet, blue and gentle white.”

Now, I cannot really explain just how breathtaking the experience is – but believe me you, it haha we ab experience I won’t forget!

Field of Lights
Yulara, Northern Territories
Field of Lights
Yulara, Northern Territories

The final day of my trip came and after breakfast, I got ready to go back to the airport.

Upon arriving? I was informed that my flight was going to be three hours late and there was a storm in Sydney that has crippled the train system and airlines.

Great.

Ayers Rock Airport
Northern Territories, Australia
(February 9, 2020)

At least I got to cross of the Northern Territories off my list of places to visit in Australia!

Gold Coast, Queensland

Next thing I knew, I was getting ready for my next adventure, a weekend trip to the Gold Coast!

The trip started out as the biggest cluster I’ve ever experienced.

I checked into my flight the night before and packed my bag for the weekend.

I was set to take the first flight out of sydney at 6am, which meant I needed to take the first train at 4am.

Just as I was about to fall asleep, I received a text from the airline saying my flight was canceled due to operational issues and I needed to call the airline to be put on the next available flight.

Now, you’d think calling an airline would be easy at 11pm, right?

Wrong.

I was on hold for 20 minutes and then when the agent greeted me hello, he hung up.

The words that came out of my mouth shortly after cannot be repeated on here … but there was no shortage of me expressing my frustration and dissatisfaction of this experience.

After another 45 minutes of waiting, I was connecting to an agent and booked on the next flight out of Sydney at 10am.

About to board the plane
Sydney Airport
Sydney, NSW
(February 14, 2020)

The flight to the Gold Coast was a quick one. We were placed on a transfer flight going to Seoul, South Korea so we were on a newer plane with comfortable seats and had inflight entertainment.

Cheeky Tarmac Photo
Gold Coast Airport
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 14, 2020)

Once getting off the plane and going through the painful task of clearing customs, I was whisked away into the shuttle, hopped in my rental car, and I was on my way to my first stop!

Jackson and I at his gym: Rivals Athlete Performance Centre
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 14, 2020)

I stopped by a local gym in the Gold Coast and paid a visit to someone very important in my life.

I’ve known this “kid” forever.

I’ve taught him Sunday School, I’ve been his Small Group Leader, I’ve been his Camp Counsellor and I’ve even hung out with him while his folks were at work or out for the evening.

I’ve spent countless nights around the dinner table being teased by him for refusing to use my fingers while eating saucy chicken wings and we’ve battled it out with burping the alphabet.

He has beat me in every physical activity I can think of: Wrestling, Baseball, Basketball, Soccer, Ultimate Frisbee, Badminton … the list could really go on.

Oh, and don’t get me started with badly I’ve lost playing Nintendo Wii against him.

Jackson trained me at his gym. He fixed my form, coached me on technique, and identified opportunities that need to be worked on to avoid injuries.

It was quite a surreal experience!

“Love at First Slice”
Burleigh Heads Beach, Gold Coast
(February 14, 2020)

Of course, after my killer workout, I needed some post workout eats … so I decided to grab a Pizza at Dominos and walk down the the beach.

It was also Valentines Day, so the beach was flooded with couples everywhere I could see.

Believe me you, I was the ONLY single person on that beach.

I was asked by beach goers if I could take photos of them posing in front of sunsets, their picnics, or in the water.

So, I was walking along the beach with my pizza and saw a young woman setting up a display for a couple that was arriving.

So, I asked her to take a photo of my Valentine, the delicious Pizza that isn’t capable of hurting my feelings, just my arteries.

Worth it.

Date Night designed by Make it You’Nique Events
Burleigh Heads Beach, Gold Coast
(February 14, 2020)

I didn’t plan much on my weekend in the Gold Coast.

I had two daytime excursions planned around Surfers Paradise, and that was about it.

A trick to the Gold Coast if you’re renting a car; there is paid parking EVERYWHERE!

BUT!!!!!!!! If you park at the local shopping centre, Pacific Fair, it’s FREE parking for 5 hours! So, I parked there, walked through the mall, then walked out to the G:link (Light Rail) outside and went into Surfers Paradise (yup, I’m that guy).

Surfers Paradise Beach Walk’n
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)

Surfers Paradise was exactly what I thought it would be.

It was packed, there was a sandcastle building competition, and there was no shortage of activities for all ages.

I’ve always said, “I like the beach, I don’t like going in the water.”

So, I saw it, grabbed a photo, then I was out.

The main reason for going to Surfers Paradise was to kill time before my main excursion: do the Skypoint Climb at the Q1 Building!

Group Shot
Skypoint Climb
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)

Some quick stats about the Skypoint Climb:

  • SkyPoint Climb is Australia’s highest external building climb.
  • SkyPoint has one of Australia’s fastest elevators taking you from ground to Level 77 (SkyPoint Observation Deck) in 42.7 seconds, where you will begin the Climb.
  • Once outside, close to 298 stairs will guide climbers up to the summit.
  • The Q1 Spire located at the summit is one of the world’s longest at 97.7m. It commences at level 75, is made up of 12 sections and weighs 87.2 tonnes.
  • The Q1 Building itself, is taller than the Chrysler building in New York City, and is structurally the 25th tallest building in the world at 322.5 metres high!
  • SkyPoint is Australia’s only beachside Observation Deck.
Skypoint Climb
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)
Skypoint Climb
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)

The funny thing is, I’m really afraid of heights.

I get really nervous and shakey – not to the point of pukingbut definitely close to passing out.

Skypoint Climb
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)

So, we all had a good laugh at the front desk when the staff greeted me and welcomed me to my experience.

Jasmine (our guide) said, “Welcome to the Skypoint Climb, Mr. Punzalan! What brings you here today?”

I looked at her and her staff and just said, “I just wanted the photo for Instagram.”

This is my life.

Skypoint Climb
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)

While I was one the climb, I was in front of a couple celebrating one of their birthdays, the big 60!

We got to talking and they asked me where I was going to go next after this.

I wasn’t sure.

I didn’t plan anything else after climbing the Q1, I was okay with this whole “doing nothing” and seeing where the day goes.

They explained one of the interesting things about the Gold Coast is how it’s border works.

While the Gold Coast is in Queensland, there are area around the Gold Coast that are actually in New South Wales; which not only represents a different state, but also a different timezone!

I asked if they had any recommendations for me to do after our climb?

They live in Byron Bay, which is about 1.5 south of the Gold a Coast, in New South Wales.

I’ve heard about Byron Bay, a very popular tourist attraction for the beaches, lighthouse, and a direct lookout point to where Captain Cook arrived.

There’s that saying, “when you’re not sure what do to on vacation, do as the locals do.”

Well, they told me to check out Byron Bay and I chose to do as the locals do, so, I hopped in the car (making it just 10 minutes shy of the 5 hour mark, so my parking was still free), and made the drive down!

There was no traffic on the scenic drive towards Byron. It was funny seeing my phone switch an hour due to the time change.

I did what you’re supposed to do any drive: music blasting, windows down, and on cruise control enjoying the views around me.

I got to Byron Bay and found parking (after driving around for 20 minutes for an available spot).

Cape Byron walking track
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)

I did the Cape Byron walking track (which I underestimated as I was wearing the wrong shorts/shirt/shoes for an outdoor hike in 36 degree weather).

Cape Byron walking track
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)

The views were unlike anything I had seen before.

As I walked around, I realized that I wouldn’t have seen this had I done what I usually did and “planned” my entire trip to the very last detail.

Cape Byron walking track
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)

That’s the thing about “doing nothing” on a vacation.

You give space for the unexpected, the spontaneous, the surprises to happen.

It’s okay to ask the locals once you arrive, “what do you recommend we do?”

You’ll be surprised what they recommend.

It really is an art.

Capy Byron Lighthouse
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)

As I continued down the walking path, I got to a fence and sat there watching the waves crashing against the rocks below.

I tried to position my phone to get the best angle to grab a selfie when a local scuba instructor saw me standing there and asked me if I wanted to walk down with him so he could show me a better vantage shot.

One of the things I’ve learned while being on holidays is to give my phone to anyone who is willing to take a photo for me.

Cape Byron walking track
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)
Cape Byron walking track
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)

And, just like that, it was time to go home … fortunately the flight home from the Gold Coast was much better than the flight going there.

I always try and sneak a photo on the tarmac … worth it every time
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 16, 2020)

The next week, I received a surprise message from my aunt that my beloved Granny was brought back to Australia after three months in the Philippines.

I’ve said from the beginning, my Granny is the reason God paved a way for me to come back to Australia and spend some more time with her while she still has time on this earth.

I love this woman with all my heart
#GrannyAndMe
Sydney, NSW
(February 23, 2020)

Question time:

When is your next vacation?

What would happen if you left space in your itinerary to:

  1. Do absolutely nothing
  2. Do as the locals do

You’ll be surprised what can come out of your vacation when you plan less and just let things happen – oh, and say hello to everyone; you never know how far a hello can go.

We likely had the worst scorecard of everyone there
(I lost both rounds, but I won the night)
Holey Moley Golf Club
Newtown, NSW
(February 22, 2020)

It’s been working out for me so far.

Onwards,
Zaighum

(100 Days left in Australia … yikes)

Into the Unknown; How to Prepare for a Working Holiday in Australia

“Don’t worry about the world ending today, it’s already tomorrow in Australia.”

Charles M. Schulz
New Years Day 2019
Sydney Opera House
Sydney, Australia
(January 1, 2019)

This time last year, I was ringing in the New Year at the Sydney Opera House, watching the night sky over Circular Quay fill up with Fireworks being shot up from the Sydney Harbour Bridge and surrounding area.

As I stared up at the sky, I felt a voice within me say, “it’s time” and I finally gave myself permission to follow my dream of living in Australia for a year, which I have since dubbed my “Radical Sabbatical.”

Many people have been messaging me and asking about how they would go about preparing for a Working Holiday in Australia, so I’ve put together all of the things I could think of to help you prepare.

First and foremost:

  1. Be certain. Packing up your life and moving to the other side of the world is not for the faint of heart. I have family here and it still took me five years of contemplating the big decision and to be emotionally, mentally and financially ready to come here.
  2. Get your finances in check. If you have debt in Canada like a car or a massive credit card bill – you won’t be doing yourself any favours by moving to the other side of the world while your debt accumulates. Pay it off, then come over – I did and it was the best decision!

Once you are ready, you need to follow these steps:

  1. Apply for your Working Holiday visa (Subclass 417) by following this link:
    • You must be within 18 – 35 years old and cannot bring children or come here if you have had a visa rejected in the past.
    • You must pay $485 AUD just to lodge your request.
    • With this visa, you can stay in Australia for 12 Months.
    • Do short-term work in Australia to help pay for your holiday.
    • Study for up to 4 months.
    • Travel to and from Australia as many times are you want.
    • Do 3 months of specified work to become eligible for a second Working Holiday visa.
    • Bring $5,000 AUD (Department of Home Affairs can bar you from entering the country if you do not have proof of funds) upon arrival in Australia.
  2. Once your visa is granted, make sure you get a Tax File Number (TFN) by following this link:
    • Your tax file number (TFN) is your personal reference number in the tax and super systems.
    • Your TFN is an important part of your tax and super records as well as your identity, so keep it secure.
    • Your TFN is yours for life. You keep the same TFN even if you change your name, change jobs, move interstate or go overseas.
    • You don’t have to have a TFN, but without one you pay more tax. You also won’t be able to apply for government benefits, lodge your tax return electronically or get an Australian business number (ABN).
  3. You need to attain a Unique Student Identifier by following this link. This will allow you to attend nationally recognized training courses which will allow you to work in:
    • Hospitality/Tourism (serving/bar tending/hotel/casino work), you must have a valid Responsible Service of Alcohol (RSA) and Responsible Conduct of Gambling (RCG) in the state in which you reside in.
    • Trade/Construction (general labour, carpentry, electrical, plumbing etc.) requires you to have a valid White Card.
    • Children/Youth (child care centres, youth homes, recreation work) requires you to have a valid Blue Card.
  4. Superannuation (or ‘super’) – you are encouraged to get a Super Account from a designated holder so all of your funds will go into a central place vs. an employer nominated provider. I use Vision Super which is very user friendly, just follow this link:
    • Superannuation is a form of saving for retirement in Australia.
    • When you visit and work in Australia, your employer may be required to make super contributions to a super fund on your behalf.
    • When you leave Australia, you may be eligible to claim that super back as a departing Australia superannuation payment (DASP). There are requirements you will need to meet to claim your DASP.
    • Your DASP is taxed before you receive it. The DASP tax rate is different for working holiday makers (WHM). If you hold (or held) a 417 (Working Holiday) or 462 (Work and Holiday) visa you are classified as a WHM.
    • To go directly to the Australian Taxation Office page for Temporary Residents and Super, follow this link
  5. Choosing a Bank
    • If you do not bank with them currently, HSBC has an International Account which you can research by following this link. Opening an account prior to coming will save you a lot of grief:
      • If you are moving abroad you can open your new chequing account before you leave so it’s set up when you arrive. Please allow up to 30 days to process your application. You must meet all HSBC qualifying criteria and document submission requirements.
      • Open an account in 37 different countries including U.S.A., China, U.K., and Hong Kong. Subject to qualifications, status and local country laws and regulations.
      • They’ll review your international needs to ensure your banking needs are met.
      • By transferring your HSBC credit history, it’s even easier to continue your banking relationship with us. Subject to qualifications, status and local country laws and regulations.
      • Due to local country laws and regulations, it can take 30 days to process your application. Their Global International Banking Centre team will keep you regularly updated on the progress of your application through telephone and email. If you have any questions, please reach out to your Case Manager during Canadian Business Hours.
    • The best bank to open up an account with while on a Working Holiday is with National Australia Bank (NAB) Classic Banking account, which you can look into by following this link:
      • Once you get your TFN, you can open up your bank account.
      • You will need a home address prior to opening up your bank account.
      • There are $0.00 Account Fees.
      • There are $0.00 Overdrawn Fees.
      • There are $0.00 Withdrawal Fees at over 7,000 ATM’s nationwide.
  6. Choosing a Phone Carrier – Australia has some pretty great phone plans with generous data packages; don’t forget to unlock your phone prior to arriving!
    • When you clear customs, there are several places where you can get a phone plan. This is my go to:
      • Telstra Pre-Paid Max offers the following, click the link to compare:
        • Cost: $300.
        • Expiry: 365 Days from purchase.
        • Data: 150g.
        • Access to Telstra Air (similar to Shaw Open) which gives you FREE WiFi in several eligible spots.

Now that the logistics are out of the way, consider the following:

  1. Understand the best time to go:
    • The Australian Financial Year is July to June whereas Canada’s is January – December. I recommend coming here in June so you can take the month to settle in before you go about finding work and deciding what you want to do.
    • Another reason why June is the best time to go is because the climate is more moderate. You are encouraged to do your specified work (farming, fruit picking, labour) which is a total of 88 Work Days in a rural area of Australia between July – October while the weather is bearable to work in.
  2. Decide where you want to settle:
    • Australia is vast, there are many places people with a Working Holiday will settle.
    • Sydney, New South Wales is of course the most popular City to live in, but it is also one of the most expensive. Here are some great cities to start in other than Sydney:
      • Melbourne, Victoria
      • Gold Coast, Queensland
      • Brisbane, Queensland
      • Cairns, Queensland
      • Perth, West Australia
    • Look up where you want to live:
      • Hostels
      • Shared accommodation
  3. Finding Work – if you aren’t picky, it shouldn’t be difficult to find work! One way to do it is to just walk up to different cafe/restaurants with your CV on hand. In hospitality jobs, one thing to be aware of is they may ask you to have a “Trial Shift” which is two hours of unpaid work in which they assess your skill-set and fit for the job.

    You can use the following links below to look at some of the most common job boards:
  4. Culture Shockers:
    • Avoid cash in hand jobs – you will want pay slips as they are required by law; if you are caught breaking tax laws, you can be denied any future entry.
    • Some employers pay weekly and others pay monthly – if you have never been a “budgeter”, start learning.
    • Rent is often due weekly – depending on how you are paid, you will need to make sure you can afford your accommodations.
    • While taxes are included in many prices, things are expensive here! In fact, Australia has one of the highest costs of living in the world; while the average wages are higher to accommodate the cost of living, be mindful of how quickly money can go (and how much is taxed on it).
    • It isn’t always hot in Australia – yes, while the climate can be warmer, it can also be quite chilly; especially at night. Pack for all temperatures.
    • You need to claim the money that you earn in Australia with the CRA prior to you filing your taxes in Canada (yup, that’s right – not a lot of people know this one).

Well that’s what I can think of, I hope it can serve you!

Happy Planning and listen to the song below as you do it – it’s so perfect!

Onwards,
-Zaighum

Yes, I watched Frozen 2 … yes, I loved it.

What’s Most Impressive is not Always Most Important

“To change your life, you need to change your priorities.”

Mark Twain

One of the most significant lessons I have learned in the five months that I’ve been in Australia is the difference between what’s most impressive and what’s most important.

Here are some examples from my own life:

Impressive: I worked for a globally recognized brand. In my job, I have been able to visit markets in Alberta (Canada), Saskatchewan (Canada), Ontario (Canada), Illinois (USA), Manila (Philippines) and New South Wales (Australia). I have personally met or corresponded with executives and leaders throughout the global system, to the point where we are on a first name basis.

Important: As a part of my role, I had the unique opportunity to approve donation and sponsorship requests for organizations and non-profits that supported families in need, at risk children and youth, local sports teams, and large scale community events.

Impressive: While working full time, I completed my Bachelor of Arts in Leadership in an 18 Month accelerated program and graduated with Great Distinction.

Important: After dropping out of University in 2015, I honoured my mothers wish of seeing her only child complete a degree in the country she immigrated to over twenty years ago.

Impressive: While in Australia, I lost over 25lbs and have kept the weight off. I dropped two pant sizes and a shirt size.

Important: I have learned to love myself and make myself a priority by getting into a regular workout routine and incorporating balanced meals into my diet.

Impressive: I found a job in Australia that gives me a generous rate, allows work life balance, has taken me around the country, gives me flexibility to work four days a week.

Important: I have an opportunity to help a small business significantly improve their operations and efficiency to best serve their clients and the meaningful connections I have made in almost four months of being there has made my time in Australia less lonely.

We often put all of our energy into the things that are most impressive – they are things that look great to other people but sometimes offer us zero personal fulfillment.

What gets left behind and often forgotten is what’s most important – the thing that often serves others instead of ourselves; the thing that often serves a higher purpose than our own.

Think about it for just a moment? What would happen if you put in all of your energy into what’s most important instead of what’s most impressive?

Alexandria, NSW
(October 30, 2019)

When I arrived in Australia, I had not let go of my career. I desperately wanted to jump right back in with the Australian office which I was in communication with every month leading up to my arrival. It would have been so cool to continue my work with a global company in another market in another country? That would be pretty impressive, eh?

That being said, my friend Kyle who ultimately left Australia to live in Canada gave me a massive reality check one day while I cried to him on the phone. Should I have been given the opportunity, I would have gone back to the life I had left behind in Vancouver. I would have gone back to working 5 – 6 days a week, multiple hours of unseen overtime, glued to my work phone, responding to emails that could have waited until the next day, and filling my free time with finding something else work related to fill it with. Oh, and the commute there and back would be three and a half hours a day.

So, when the job offer came from that company to support them in their Customer Service Call Centre for one of their largest nationwide campaigns, I faced quite the predicament: play it safe and go back to what I knew or be patient for the right opportunity to present itself.

Nevertheless, I presented some terms to counter their offer: I wanted to work Part-Time, just four days a week, Monday to Thursday would suffice and I would take the job.

They said, “No.”

I realized my value and what I needed from a company while I was in Australia. I reminded myself, I am in this country on a Work & Holiday Visa; I need to work to fund my holiday – and I need to enjoy every moment of my holiday. That is important.

So I moved on.

I chose me, and I don’t regret one minute of it.

Engadine, NSW
(November 1, 2019)

You see, when you choose to focus on what’s most important vs. what’s most impressive, a transformation within you occurs.

It’s very liberating.

Staying true to what I needed from an employer, I sought jobs that would allow me to work part-time and in an environment where I could meet new people.

Today, I live and breathe it – at least for the six months that the Australian Government allows me to work there.

I am so thankful I waited for the right opportunity, for I have met some extraordinary individuals who have changed my life for the better.

Kicking off the “Full Send”
Iron Duke Hotel
(October 25, 2019)

One of the strengths of my employer and his company is the ability to take random strangers from all around Australia, and bring them to a place where they identify common interests, passions, desires, personalities etc.

That’s just at the events.

Now, imagine a bunch of strangers from different walks of life finding this place of work. Where we see each other at least five days a week, for eight hours a day, and learning more and more about each other as the days go by. A bond begins to build, you see things in them you strive to achieve. While some only worked there for a season, in that time we were able to build a relationships that went beyond the workplace.

Back in Canada, I used to give the sarcastic response to, “How’re you doing?” with, “Oh, I’m living the dream.”

When Australians ask me, “How’re you going?”, I can honestly, whole heartedly, without a shred of uncertainty, look a them in the eye and say, “I’m living the dream!”

Choosing to pack up my life and move to Australia was impressive, but why I have chosen to stay is important.

F A M I L Y

I always felt disconnected as everyone in my family lives in Australia and the Philippines, while I lived in Canada. Sometimes, they would visit us and sometimes, I would visit them.

I wanted to learn who they were, what’s their story, and where is there common ground.

There is one person who brings us all together, despite our differences and that person is my Granny.

Mount Druitt, NSW
(November 10, 2019)

In the year 2000, she came to Canada to live with us. In 2002, she came to visit us again. In 2003, I lived in Australia with her. In 2010, we visited her in the Philippines to celebrate her birthday. In 2015, I visited Australia and lived with her while I was here. In 2016, I visited her twice a day, everyday in the nursing home she was living in. In 2018, I went to the Philippines to celebrate her 90th birthday. In 2019, she was brought back to Australia and I was given one more opportunity to be near her.

You see, she now has dementia. She barely remembers who you are, and when she does she becomes overwhelmed with emotion and then quickly forgets who you are until you remind her again.

While this can be an exhausting and sometimes frustrating pattern, it is very beautiful with her childlike innocence.

We received a phone call letting us know she was going to be brought back to the Philippines as her health took a sudden turn and perhaps being in a familiar environment surrounded by her family in the Philippines would help improve her health; it has in the past.

So we all went to see her, and despite the drama that comes with every big family, we put it all aside to see our matriarch for what could be the last time and it was such a great time – my heart was full.

Cronulla, NSW
(November 9, 2019)

My cousin, Nina came to visit from the rural areas of New South Wales for a weekend. It’s always great to see her, she doesn’t come up very often as it’s about an 8 hour drive to get to Sydney from where they are.

Nevertheless, she finds time and I was fortunate to squeeze in a visit with her.

While Nina has many accomplishments: married to her high school sweet heart, three beautiful children, a great job as a Teacher – one of the most significant ones is she is the only one in our family to have gone to Grad School! Yup, my cousin recently finished her Masters of Teacher Librarianship – the first to reach that level of higher education.

I always knew I would not be content with my undergrad, but I also did not believe I had the ability to complete grad school, let alone be accepted into a program. However, watching my cousin and her resilience in completing her graduate studies while being a full time teacher, a mother, a wife, and running a household was just the kick in the ass that I needed.

So, I applied for Grad School.

I’ve been met with some success in offers and have also been greeted with some rejection.

To date, the most significant offer I’ve been given is by the Faculty of Arts and Social Sciences at the University of Technology Sydney to complete a Master of Education in Learning and Leadership.

While I’m extremely grateful for all of the graduate study offers I’ve been given to date, I have to weight out all of my options as I determine what program will best serve me in reaching my goals.

University of Technology Sydney
Sydney, NSW
(November 22, 2019)

So, that’s what I’ve been up to these days. I have seven more months of my Radical Sabbatical to spend learning, growing, and exploring – we are entering the summer months in Australia, I am very excited!

I am choosing to make a conscious effort everyday to put my energy into what’s most important vs. what’s most impressive.

How about you? What would your life start looking like if you poured more of yourself into what’s most important vs. what’s most impressive?

Looking at every situation you’re faced with using that pre-frame will change your life.

After all, it changed mine.

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…” – Dr. Seuss
Engadine, NSW
(November 22, 2019)

Onwards,
-Zaighum

If I Knew Then What I Know Now

“You have to do what you love to do, not get stuck in that comfort zone of a regular job. Life is not a dress rehearsal. This is it.”

Lucinda Bassett
Flight from Brisbane to Melbourne
Qantas Airline
(October 3, 2019)

This week, I celebrated my fourth month (eight more to go) in Australia.

I’ve been trying to get my sleep schedule back to normal and get used to my new workout routine (I had to switch gyms).

I just got back from three weeks of traveling around Australia, something I had wanted to do but didn’t think I’d be able to do until 2020.

So, you can imagine my reaction when my employer invited me to be a part of their interstate tour around the country as their Tour Production Manager!

7 Steps to 7 Figure Tour Team
Luke (Business Owner – Back left), Brock (Videographer – Top right), Renee (Sales/Coaching Assistant – Bottom left), Myself (Headache creator – Bottom right)

We had the unique opportunity to visit seven major cities in Australia: Canberra, Sydney (where I live), Gold Coast, Brisbane, Melbourne, Adelaide and Perth.

We were promoting a new business course that my employer designed to support Small Business Owners grow their organizations to reach seven figures.

QT Canberra
Canberra, ACT
(September 24, 2019)

I loved meeting different entrepreneurs and hearing about their businesses. Some were personal development coaches, some developed apps, there were some personal trainers and tradespeople, a few accountants and network marketers too. I met some unique individuals: a fire cracker public speaking coach, someone saving Australian wildlife, one person was writing a book, and another implementing a recycling program.

Flying back to Sydney
Tullamarine Airport Melbourne
(October 4, 2019)

Of all the people we met on the trip, no one stood out as much as the gentleman in our row on our flight to Adelaide.

This man was in his late fifties and told us about his dream job and how he got to this very place (sitting on a plane, flying around Australia).

You see, over fifteen years ago, he was about to hit his 40th birthday. For years he was in a line of work that did not fulfill him but he felt he was obligated to stay in it because “that’s what you’re supposed to do”:

  1. Go to university
  2. Get a job
  3. Get married
  4. Buy a house
  5. Start a family
  6. Pay into your retirement
  7. Retire
  8. Die

As he approached his 40th birthday he realized he couldn’t see himself working in his career for another 25+ years and decided it was time to quit the successful career he had built and go ahead and follow his dreams. He shared that while he wanted to “up and leave” his career, he also acknowledged he had obligations to his family. He consulted with his wife and children and they agreed the decision to make a career change was the right decision and encouraged him to follow his dreams, turn it into a career and live and breathe it everyday until he retires.

Fast forward to today, he has been operating a successful business where he buys and sells muscle/collector cars for his clients all around Australia.

As he reflected on his 2nd career after almost two decades, he expressed his relief and thankfulness that he gave himself permission to pursue his dream.

I asked him if he had any regrets from his decision of leaving a career he had established for another career in his 40’s, and he said:

If I knew then what I know now, I would have given myself permission to do this much sooner.”

He commended me for leaving my career when I did and pursuing my radical sabbatical while still in my 20’s, then asked me why I had waited so long and, “if you knew then what you know now, would you have come sooner?

I didn’t have the answer.

Flight to Perth
Australia
(October 9, 2019)

As we were on our next flight to Perth, I pondered on that question:

If I knew then what I know now, would I have come here sooner?

Yes.

I thought the last four years of building my career, finishing my degree, and growing my network would benefit me when I got to Australia.

Meh.

Now, do I regret doing all of those things? Absolutely not; I am proud of every accomplishment – working in a role that I loved (and still grieving its end), completing my degree with great distinction while I worked full time, and building a global network of professionals from different fields.

However, if I knew then what I know now, I should have come here sooner. I should have come here during a time when I was more fearless and more free spirited – where I’d pack a backpack instead of a suitcase, sleep in a hostel instead of an Airbnb, get a serving/farming job in the middle of rural Australia instead of multiple failed applications to jobs in the populated city.

I have become too much of a perfectionist and have carefully calculated so much of this trip that I have become scared of truly letting go of control, letting things happen as they happen and just say as Mrs. Brown would say, “feck it, it’s grand!”

So, while I am unable to turn back time, I can choose to make the most of things now that I’m here. So, here’s to more of those “feck it” moments during my radical sabbatical!

Sydney Domestic Airport
Sydney, Australia
(October 8, 2019)

Back in my previous career, I used to do presentations with our community partners back in Canada and speak about one of the reasons why people stay in any company, and one of the biggest reasons is the people we work with.

I’ve grown to love the people I once worked with and I can honestly say I’d still be willing to go to the ends of the earth for some of them. The hardest part of leaving was saying goodbye to them; knowing our relationships may change and I may not see them again.

One of the struggles I’ve been dealing with since arriving in Australia is not making friends. I have gotten to know some people through the gym, church, and the odd conversation on public transit, a pub or the beach. The easiest way to meet people is downloading the classic quick dating apps however I’ve noticed that the people on there are not the people I want to meet anymore; I want to face some of my personal fears and force myself to meet people in crowded settings. Yenno, having a social life over the phone (especially when you’re +17 hours ahead) is exhausting – sometimes I feel like I forget how to talk to people in person?

When I started my job after almost three months of (f)unemployment, my biggest fear was making friends at work. Fortunately, it didn’t take very long – I work with some great people and I was able to travel Australia with them.

Southport Sharks Health + Fitness
Gold Coast, Australia
(October 2, 2019)

Some mornings we were responsible and went to the gym …

Heroes Karaoke & Rooftop Bar
Melbourne, Australia
(October 4, 2019)

And some nights we went out … did you know Long Island Ice Tea’s have 4.5 different shots in them? Who knew?

At the end of the work trip, we met a couple of local celebrities Elise & Matt from the hit TV Show, The Block

We were starstruck meeting our favourite “Block Heads”, Elise & Matt from The Block!
T1 Domestic Airport (Virgin Australia)
Perth, Australia
(October 10, 2019)

Now that I am back home, I’m trying to map out some further travel in the remaining eight months that I have left in Australia. There is so much of this country I’d like to see – I have to make it count!

I get compliments on my passport holder by people when they see it.
They ask me where I got it from and I always choke up when I respond.
Hers was one of the hardest goodbyes I had to give.

Question for you: If you knew then what you know now, what would you have done differently?

Better question: can you do it now?

If there is one thing I have learned in these last few months (the lead up and arrival of being in Australia), it is how much fear and doubt prevent us from following our dreams. We make excuses as to why we cannot do the things we want to do; comfort, finances, education, employment – these can become shackles that bind us down.

What will it take for you to break free and act on your dreams, whatever they might be?

You don’t need to wait till you’re 40 (or another milestone age if you’re already past 40) to follow whatever dream you’ve been holding onto.

Thank you for being a part of my journey – I can’t wait to share more with you.

Onwards,
-Zaighum

Three Months Down, Nine More to Go!

Cronulla Point
Cronulla, NSW, Australia
(September 1, 2019)

“One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up, instead of what they have to gain.”

Rick Godwin

How do you react to change?

Pause before you answer!

The politically correct response that usually comes up is:

  • “I love change!”
  • “I welcome change!”
  • “Change is good!”

In my conversations with people, change actually scares the shit out of them.

In my own life, I realized how scared I was of change.

Here I was, since 2015 telling people I was going to pursue this dream of living in Australia, only to find every excuse not to do it.

After all, how could I give up everything I had:

  • I had just finished my degree, it was time to grow my career
  • I had an amazing job, like, I really had an amazing job
  • I had a reliable car that was paid off – I was debt free
  • I had a solid group of friends who understood me and were accessible at any moment

Next thing I know, I’m sitting at the departure gate at Vancouver International Airport on June 15th, 2019:

  • I had pressed pause on building a career
  • I quit my job and needed to accept that I was likely not going to be welcomed back
  • I sold my car and was going to be relying on public transit
  • I was leaving my social life, I would be going to the other side of the world and be +17 hours ahead of Vancouver time

Was it hard leaving? Yes.

Do I regret leaving? No.

Let me *pause* here and share what I’ve been up to.

It has been a busy month, let me tell you!

I’ve gone back to work which has taken up a lot of my time.

Sure, I only work four days a week at six hours a day (thanks to the Government of Canada who taxes my income even while I temporary live overseas), however I am feeling fulfilled in the work I have been doing as I help a growing business reach their goals.

7 Steps to 7 Figures Intro Event
The Sydney Boulevard Hotel
Sydney, Australia
(September 26, 2019)

I’ve been asked to join our team as the Event Producer as we embark on a seven city tour of Australia where we are meeting with small business owners and business leaders; introducing them to seven areas each business leaders need to familiarize them with in order to make their business successful.

It’s funny, one of my goals was to visit different cities in the country before my Radical Sabbatical was over, and now here I am: three months into my trip, visiting Canberra, Sydney, Gold Coast, Brisbane, Melbourne, Adelaide, and Perth for work … how cool is that?!

8 Weeks with F45 Engadine!

Another big accomplishment I was able to reach was getting back into a fitness routine.

When I joined the 8 Week Challenge with F45, I had no idea it would mean giving up the holiday staples: bread, potatoes, and booze.

Yet, here I was – sacrificing afternoons that used to be dedicated to jumping from bar-to-bar to all of a sudden box jumping. I ate the same thing almost everyday, grocery shop on Thursday, meal prep on Saturday.

Drastic changes in my eating habits and paired with going to the gym five days a week paid off!

I found other ways to incorporate practical changes into my life:

  • I would get off the train a station early from my destination to walk the extra few km’s
  • At the train stations, I would take the stairs instead of the escalators
  • It usually takes 20 minutes to walk from my house to the train station, so I would pick up my pace to do it within 15 minutes or less
Granny’s 91st Birthday Party
Engadine, NSW
(September 21, 2019)
She might have dementia and ask me who I am every five minutes, but when she remembers, she tells me I’m her favourite … can you blame her?

Another major milestone was celebrating my granny’s 91st birthday.

There is some significance to being able to do this:

  1. Last year, all of my Granny’s overseas family (Australia/Canada) flew to the Philippines to celebrate my Granny’s 90th birthday
  2. She has dementia, and quickly forgets who we are
  3. Her health continues to fluctuate, I mean c’mon – she’s in her 90’s

As I shared in my last post, my Granny was being brought to Australia from the Philippines – a plan no one had any idea was in the works until the week it actually happened.

We weren’t even sure if she would be able to be admitted onto the plane, she’s so frail.

Yet, here she was with all of us. I continue to standby my belief that everything fell into place the way it did and when it did; that I am in Australia for such a time as this.

It was magical watching her come down the driveway last Saturday.

She shuffled down the carport after arriving fashionably late.

As she walked down, her 90 year old best friend who she hadn’t seen in over three years was standing there. My granny called out her name and began to cry, her best friend crying out too and sharing a hug.

I tell you, there was not a dry eye in the carport.

She was dancing in her seat, laughed with us, sang her songs, and would continue to comment on our teeth (she lost her dentures and is currently without anything … sigh).

3 Generations of Punzalan’s – celebrating the matriarch of our family
Engadine, NSW
(September 21, 2019)

At the end of her party, she was absolutely wiped out; good thing we made it her “Birthday Lunch” instead of “Birthday Dinner” =)

Tuckered out from her Birthday Festivities
Engadine, NSW
(September 21, 2019)

While I’m in Australia, Canadians are preparing to head to the ballot box for the 2019 Federal Election.

The Canada Elections Act states that a federal election must be held on the third Monday of October in the fourth calendar year following the previous federal election. As the last election was on October 19, 2015, the next fixed election date is October 21, 2019.

Greens, Conservatives, NDP, or Liberal – your voice matters!
(oh, PPC is also an option … but like, c’mon)

I’ve always believed that it is our democratic duty to head to the ballot box and contribute to the democratic process to choose who will lead our country for the next four years.

Whether you are a Canadian citizen living at home and abroad, you should ensure your voice is heard.

Canadian electors living abroad who have previously resided in Canada can vote by special ballot in federal elections, regardless of how long they have been living abroad. The deadline to apply to vote by mail is Tuesday, October 15, 6 p.m., Eastern time.

Elections Canada will send a package which includes your Official Special Ballot Paper

I encourage everyone (decided or undecided) who is able to vote to visit Vote Compass, a really useful tool for everything to determine which party best aligns with their values.

Oh, if you live in (or know someone) in Markham-Stouffville or Vancouver-Granville, they gotta check out the Hon. Dr. Jane Philpott, MP and Hon. Jody Wilson-Raybould, MP
These two are independent MP’s up for reelection and are icons in Canadian Politics!

I’m voting, will you?

Hillsong Waterloo

I have found community with my new church family at Hillsong.

It wasn’t an easy decision at first – I wrestled with it for weeks.

Some people have reached out to me and asked how I can attend Hillsong knowing the stance of Hillsong’s Senior Pastor, Brian Houston towards the LGBTQ2+ Community serving in their church?

Do I agree with their view? Absolutely not.

Do I think they’ve missed the mark? Yes.

Do I believe they genuinely love all people? Wholeheartedly yes.

Here’s the thing, all I’ve ever seen demonstrated and experienced at Hillsong Waterloo is: love.

Love, love, and more love.

Here’s a perfect example: a couple of weeks ago, this guy walked into the front of the church during worship. As he made his way to his spot, he was quickly greeted by the people around him (including two pastors); hugs, jumping up and down and high fives all around.

He was beaming and wore his “Sunday Best”: a simple black v-neck showing his silver chain, rolled up blue jeans paired with a spotless pair of white Vans. Oh, and he was rocking a fierce and classic set of newly filled French Tips.

The best part?

He stood in front of the church, arms wide open, worshiping his Jesus.

I was overwhelmed with emotions. He embodied the meaning of “come as you are” and the Christians around him welcomed him with open arms (literally).

Here’s a fun fact about Brian & Bobbie Houston. While they may hold (what I believe to be an outdated) belief that LGBTQ2+ Christians cannot serve in ministry, Pastor Brian has been an active opponent of Conversion Therapy (eh, least they’re on the right side of that issue).

Regardless of where you stand with Hillsong, consider this statement that was released on February 14, 2019:

“At Hillsong we want to be known by who we are for. We are for people finding hope in Jesus, we are for people finding love and acceptance, and we are for helping people in any way we can. Our focus is on pointing people to Jesus as “the way, the truth, and the life”. No matter where you are in the world, when you enter our doors, you will be greeted with a sign that says, ‘Welcome Home’. That is the heartbeat of Hillsong Church. Indeed, that is the heartbeat of God.”

Yup, you should go for it!

So, let’s go back to what I was saying earlier.

It was hard to give up the great life that I had in Canada, however I have gained so much in just three months of being in Australia.

  1. I have a job that energizes me and is giving me an opportunity to travel across the country
  2. I am living a more active lifestyle and I’m taking the steps to reclaim my body
  3. I get to make some more memories with my Granny while she’s on this earth
  4. I still get to participate in shaping the future of Canada by voting in the upcoming federal election
  5. I saw the love of Jesus towards the LGBTQ2+ Community in a church that I did not believe was able to show it

Is there something in your life that you are afraid to give up?

Giving it up might mean a financial setback or may not be the fan favourite option.

People might question your decision to change; heck, you might not even be ready to pursue the change (I know I wasn’t).

However, imagine what you have to gain?!

For example, imagine someone building their career with the same company for decades and then leave it to start a new career?

One could focus on everything they’re giving up: the comfort of the known, the familiarity of the organization, or the reputation and network they have built over the decades.

Or one can focus on what they have to gain: an opportunity to disrupt their narrative, learn a new industry, or more importantly – a better life for their family.

So, whatever it is in your life – may you move away from your fear of losing it all and move triumphantly towards everything you have to gain.

Onwards,
-Zaighum

My First Month

“You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”

– Unknown
Luna Park
North Sydney, NSW
July 17, 2019

I celebrated my one month in this country by visiting Luna Park, a restored 1930’s amusement park that is on the corner of the Sydney Harbour.

My favourite ride was the Hair Raiser, it’s so funny seeing people’s hair before and after the ride (although, my hair has plenty of volume due to my round brush, blow dry and four product routine; it also doesn’t move).

Once you’re strapped into your seat, you are slowly brought up 50 metres above sea level for a bird’s eye view of the Sydney Harbour before being dropped over 80kms towards the ground.

I’ve never been much for heights, but I do enjoy amusement park rides.

I’ve been fortunate to be surrounded by my family, I haven’t lived with them since I was ten years old. We are getting re-aquatinted and learning who we are in this current stage of our lives. I don’t remember every night I’ve shared with them as we like to share a few beverages.

(Oh, and they’ve taught me how to drink wine; no more Moscato for me)

My cousin, Lovella and her fiancé, Mark have been extremely supportive. Not only have they given me a place to live, but we spend a lot of time together. We celebrate my mini milestones, we share meals together, watch shows on the couch, and go into the city the odd time.

They have kept my mind busy so I don’t always get lost in my head; it has made this season of self discovery so much easier.

My cousin, Lovella & I
Darling Harbour, NSW
July 12, 2019

There is a vantage point in North Sydney that looks over Sydney Harbour, and isn’t congested with tourists like Circular Quay. I’ve always looked at from the other side, but never took the time to go over. With all of my free time, it was time to check it out.

I found some park benches over looking the water, so I sat down and reflected on my first month here.

Sydney Harbour Bridge
(taken from North Sydney)
July 17, 2019

I am still trying to grasp that I’m actually in Australia and that I have been here for a month.

I have realized this trip is turning into a journey of deep learning: addressing insecurities I have suppressed, hurt that I have not dealt with and accepting my life for where it currently is.

Here are three things that I have had to let go of since being here:

  1. Letting go of Expectations:
    • Expectation: I had everything planned out in my head the moment I landed – go on a road trip, find a job, meet new people, make some friends.
    • Reality: My road trip fell through, I’ve sent out almost 150 applications and have been rejected by them all, I have not met a lot of people, I only have three friends (who have their own lives); goodness these days have been somewhat lonely.
  2. Letting go of my Career:
    • Expectation: I was going to be the guy who got the “Golden Opportunity”. Took the risk to follow my dream of living in Australia and continue to build on the career I had worked so hard to establish.
    • Reality: Now that I have been (f)unemployed for almost two months, I’m beginning to see this entire experience as the disruption that was needed for me to break out of what I was doing and discover what I am truly meant to do; I’ll get back to you on that one.
  3. Letting go of People who Belong in the Past:
    • Expectation: I have held onto the odd chance that there may be a “pick up where we left off” moment, where things will go back to how they used to be. I have kept text messages from significant people from my journey that go as far back as 2014, waiting for the day I see a “hello”.
    • Reality: They aren’t coming back and things will never be the same. These individuals chose to walk away, we don’t even talk anymore (and the off chance that we do, I realize that keeping them in my life is not helping me move forward), and I don’t even live in the same country as them anymore. It shouldn’t be this difficult to let go.

I have found myself looking back at the last year and have asked myself:

“What if I had done that differently?”

“What if I had just spoken up?”

“What if I said this instead?”

“What if I had just given them space?”

Looking back at that chapter of my life has done me no favours.

There have been moments where I have felt like the ground beneath my feet is imploding and I find myself facing a complete meltdown. There have been moments of crying on the train, in the middle of the city, or on the beach; each time frustrated with my struggle to let go.

Sometimes I don’t make it out of the house and I lay on the couch reading a book or binge a Netflix Original Series all day.

I continue to struggle with the “who am I” question.

Who am I without my career, without my friends, without the things I have been holding onto, without my structure, without my routine?

I have felt so lost in my search for my identity.

Identity Crisis at 26 … yikes.

I don’t like feeling this way, yet I know deep down that all of this is supposed to be happening the way it is and this is all going to shape me into who I’m supposed to be.

As I begin to let go of the control that I have been so desperate to hold onto, I have noticed things are slowly falling into place right before me.

Friends, dealing with your shit is not easy.

It can be scary, exhausting, difficult, heartbreaking, and a whole lot of other things.

In order for growth to happen, it may be necessary to go through them.

Perhaps if you deal with it now, you won’t feel so lost in your head, have an identity crisis that triggers a major meltdown, and move to the other side of the world to find yourself?

(It’s okay for that to happen too)

Reflection Time:

  1. How do you deal with your shit?
  2. What do you need to let go that’s holding you back?

Now that you’ve caught a glimpse of the not so fun part of my journey, let me tell you what has been keeping me energized!!!

F45 Engadine
Engadine, NSW
July 17, 2019

With all of my free time and the need for face-to-face conversations, I have been regularly attending my local F45. We do 45 Minutes circuit training, focusing on cardio on Monday/Wednesday/Friday and functional strength training on Tuesday/Thursday.

I wake up at 6:00am, leave the house by 6:20am, walk the fifteen minutes to the gym to attend the 6:45am session. Finish at 7:30am, do some stretches then slowly walk back home.

I was given a shoutout by the team recently, doing the one thing I dread the most.

Weight Training.

Going to the gym has been giving me something to do, forcing me to do something productive with my time, even if it’s just for 45 Minutes out of my day. It’s been quite cathartic and is helping me reach some personal goals.

It has also helped burned off the carbs and alcohol that has snuck into my diet.

Poutine at BL Burgers
Darlinghurst, NSW
July 12, 2019

I … FOUND … POUTINE!

I was in Darlinghurst watching a Comedy Sketch by a local Drag Queen before meeting up with my cousin in Darling Harbour.

As I was walking towards the harbour, I was reading all of the different menus advertised outside the restaurants along the strip and saw poutine on one of the menus.

I turned back around to double check if I had read it correctly.

It was correct, this place sold poutine!

I have a weakness for poutine, had one the day before I left for Australia because I did not think I would be able to eat one for a whole year.

I walked up the owner, and asked my usual questions when I see poutine being advertised on the menu:

  1. What is the gravy base?
    • It was mushroom
  2. Do you use actual cheese curds?
    • They did (well, they were tiny … but it did the trick)

I didn’t waste anytime, I gave them my money and waited.

When it arrived, I snapped my picture and then took the first bite.

Heaven.

Now, it isn’t exactly the way it tastes back home. The seasoning is a bit different on the french fries, the cheese curds are small, and it almost tasted like the salt shaker broke and the contents fell into my box … BUT it’ll do for now.

Pre-Race Photo
Engadine, NSW
Sutherland2Surf
July 21, 2019

I spent the last month training for an 11km Run!

The only organized runs I’ve ever participated in were the Scotia 5km and the BMO 8km back in Vancouver.

So, signing up for an 11km was a big stretch.

I was determined to do it, it was something I had never done before and one of my goals on my Radical Sabbatical was to try new things.

There is something special about the Running Community. Everyone shows up on race day with the same common purpose; finish the race.

There’s the final five minutes, the organizers blast the pump up music and people begin to toss their Throwaway Gear.

I always start to tear up at this moment, not sure why.

I play two songs before I do any run (the actual or training):

  1. Where The Streets Have No Name: U2
  2. We Built this City: Rocketship

The Sutherland2Surf is quite interesting. You run through the following suburbs within the Sutherland Shire:

  • Sutherland
  • Kirrawee
  • Gymea
  • Miranda
  • Caringbah
  • Woolooware
  • Cronulla

There are people throughout the race route cheering you on.

High fives are given out, kids have noise makers, and there is camaraderie on the course by fellow runners.

As I made my way towards the final stretch, the crowds got bigger and bigger, it was quite the spectacle for our little beach suburb.

My final time was 1:07, beat what I had expected to do by 8 Minutes.

There was a familiar face at the finish line after I got my medal.

Ronald McDonald and I
Sutherland2Surf 2019
Wanda Beach, Cronulla, NSW

The Maccas (McDonald’s) Owner Operators of Sutherland Shire are official sponsors of Sutherland2Surf.

I will always love my McLife and am embracing my new role as a “McDAlumni”. It was pretty special to see representation in my new community of Sutherland Shire; something I was fortunate to lead back in Metro-Vancouver.

And so, I look forward to the next eleven months that are ahead of me.

I have no idea what is going to happen next: where will I work, who will I meet, what will I experience, or what I’ll learn?

What I do know is I won’t be able to experience any of it if I continue to re-read a chapter of my life that I cannot re-write.

It’s time to turn the page.

Onwards,
-Zaighum

Today, Not Someday.

A Humpback Whale breaching just outside the harbour
Sydney, NSW

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

– Mark Twain

“I’ll do that someday.”

Do you catch yourself saying that a lot?

There are so many things I want to do but I put it off for “someday”. I want to do it, I hope I can do it, I wish I can do it, I dream I can do it, I even pray that I can do it; but when the opportunity finally makes itself available, I don’t do it.

I’ve given myself a “someday” for just about everything I’ve ever wanted to do:

Someday, I’ll lose weight. Someday, I’ll learn how to use the weights at the gym. Someday, I’ll go bungee jumping. Someday, I’ll go skydiving. Someday, I’ll go on a road trip. Someday, I’ll go to grad school. Someday, I’ll put myself out there and meet new people. Someday, I’ll travel every continent.

Someday.

New Years Day at the Sydney Opera House
January 1, 2019

The moment before that picture was taken (above), I made the decision to stop dreaming about living in Australia someday, and to just go for it.

Five months later, I began my one year Radical Sabbatical here in beautiful Sydney, Australia!

As I continue to journey along this season of (f)unemployment, I’ve decided to do some of the things I’ve always wanted to do but never gave myself an opportunity to do.

I made so many excuses not to do them:

  1. I had to work
  2. I didn’t have enough money
  3. I didn’t have the free time
  4. I needed to hand in an assignment
  5. I’ll go someday
Whale Watching
Sydney, Australia
July 9, 2019

I’ve always wanted to go Whale Watching. I lived in the West Coast of Canada, there are so many opportunities to go Whale Watching and see our beautiful Orca Whales or Dolphins swim and breach along our coast.

I was in Circular Quay on Monday, trying to figure out what I wanted to do during the week (I have a lot of free time on my hands, as you can tell). There were multiple booths for Whale Watching, I walked up to each one and asked them about pricing and the schedule. The average price was about $90 (something I was not that thrilled to pay for). I walked over to one of the last booths which was Captain Cook Cruises, and they told me I could go the next afternoon for $55.

Sold.

I walked up the Wharf on Tuesday. It was quite a lineup to get onto the Catamaran. Fortunately, when you’re the solo traveler, you can get any open seat at the upper deck (yay).

We were given complimentary Barf Bags (so thoughtful). I chuckled to myself when they were being handed out. The waters didn’t seem that rough?

HAH!

Once we left the harbour, the boat was hopping on the waves and you couldn’t walk on the boat without holding onto something (guess who fell down the stairs, sigh). People were using those bags, some people used theirs up and were going off the side of the boat, and one guy didn’t make it past opening the washroom door (everywhere … it was everywhere).

Helpful Tip: stay hydrated, but don’t eat before you go onto the open waters.

Anyway, the scenery was breath taking. You look back and can see all of the cliffs, beaches, and the city skyline. Ugh, what a view!

Then you look out into the water and you realize you’re on sailing the Pacific Ocean. The wind was blowing, the sun was out, there was not a cloud in the sky.

The Skipper slowed the ship down, and we were told over the loud speaker that there were two hump back whales swimming ahead. Moments later, we had a pod of dolphins (you can look at some short clips in the instagram post above).

People who know me well will tell you I am one of the most emotional people you’ll ever meet.

I was a wreck watching these mammals come up for air.

Fortunately, I wasn’t the only one on this ship that appreciated the opportunity we were experiencing because there were a lot of people crying.

Phew.

Climb Fit
Kirrawee, NSW
July 10, 2019

The next day, my cousin was chatting with me at breakfast and asked what my plans were for the day?

I didn’t have any, was likely going to bum around the city.

She told me she was going to their her kids Indoor Rock Climbing and asked if I wanted to tag along?

I’ve always wanted to go, I just never had the time or anyone to go with so I jumped on the opportunity!

While I’ve never been too afraid of heights, there’s something about the idea of rock climbing climbing that has always made me queasy. Oh, and they don’t give helmets (seriously … even the ones I’ve seen in Manila, Philippines give you a helmet).

Nonetheless, my little cousin was belaying for me, and I faced my fears and climbed to the top (the video below is my 2nd climb … the first one I skinned my knee and cussed in the video, oops).

Climb Fit
Kirrawee, NSW
July 10, 2019

I woke up the next morning and realized that one year ago I finished the final class of my Bachelor of Arts in Leadership. To celebrate, I went into the city for a walk.

There’s a patch of grass as you enter The Rocks below one of the pillars of the Sydney Harbour Bridge.

I laid out in the sun, the calm breeze brought the subtle salt water smell to where I was. Boats sailed by, the running groups were training, and the cars and train going over the bridge made up the typical downtown noise.

I reflected on the significance of that moment.

On the evening we finished our class, Leading in the World.

We were asked by our instructor what our degrees would do for us once we walked out of the doors of the university?

Some of my colleagues said they would use their degrees to become teachers and others said they would become counsellors.

I’ve always said my degree would give me the courage to pursue my dream of being in Australia.

And it has.

I quit a job that I loved, paid off my debt, packed up my bags, and pursued a dream that was on my heart.

I left the only life that I knew back in Vancouver. I’ve pressed “restart” and have this rare opportunity to create a new identity, create new structure, meet new people, learn more about myself, try new things and take the time to find whatever it is that has drawn me to Australia.

I am living my dream right now; today, not someday.

Dawes Point (The Rocks)
Sydney, Australia
July 11, 2019

So, think about this:

What is that thing you’ve always wanted to do someday?

The big question:

What is stopping you from doing it today, not someday?

I hope you pursue the first thing that came to your heart.

I promise you, it’ll be so worth it!

Onwards,
-Zaighum

*Restart*

“So take a deep breath,
Pick yourself up,
Dust yourself off,
Start all over again”
-Frank Sinatra

Soaked by sea spray and rain on the ferry to Manly, NSW
July 4, 2019

Friends, let me tell you something that I hope you’re able to accept.

You’re allowed to press the “restart” button.

Press it as often as you want and as many times as you may need.

Seriously, you’re allowed.

After my massive meltdown last weekend, crying over all of my expectations that have fallen a part, I’ve scrapped all of my plans and I’m taking things day by day.

I can afford to, so I will.

Since making this decision, I’ve never felt so free.

“When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be” – Mandy Hale

With all of my free time, I’ve been getting out of the house to see places I’ve never taken the time to actually enjoy.

On average, I’ve been walking doing anywhere from 15,000 to 30,000 steps per day.

On Tuesday, I was brought to Bondi to do the Bondi to Coogee walk, a scenic 6km trek in Sydney’s eastern suburbs.

There was a spot on our walk where we stood for a little while. We stood at the edge a cliff and stared at the waves crashing against the rocks below. The sun was setting, the wind blew a steady breeze, and it felt as though no one was around except for us.

I felt an overwhelming sense of peace come over me.

Something in my heart whispered:

“This moment.
This moment right here?
This is what you were waiting for.”

“Smell the ocean, feel the sky; let your soul and spirit fly” – Van Morrison

On Wednesday, I did my regular trip to Cronulla.

Cronulla isn’t a busy tourist attraction like Bondi or Manly. The locals know about it, and that’s how I like it.

School was still in session this week (school holiday’s started this weekend), so the beach was extra empty during the day.

I walked up the stairs and made my way towards one of the private beaches I found back in 2015.

I love the walk just to get there. You can see all the beautiful houses, the architecture is so fascinating. There are different types of flowers and plants as you go along, I asked if I could pet every dog that walked by, and played peek-a-boo with the kids in the strollers as they passed by.

There are different vantage points that you can stop at and just absorb the view.

When I finally arrived at the hidden beach, no one was there.

I literally had the entire beach to myself.

Bliss.

I curled up on a rock, rolled up my sweater to use it as a cushion as I rested my head.

The sand just beyond the rock was not blemished by footprints, the water was still, and you could hear different birds chirping overhead.

There was a moment when I said out loud, “isn’t this beautiful?”

I propped myself up and looked around.

I forgot I was alone.

That is one of the trade-off’s about packing up your life and relocating to the other side of the world for a little while.

I don’t know a lot of people here, and the people that I do know work during the day.

I’ll get used to this kind of solitude in time.

“We are tied to the ocean. And when we go back to the sea, whether it is to sail or to watch – we are going back form whence we came” – President John F. Kennedy

On Thursday, I took the ferry to Manly.

I stood on the outside deck. My hair was blowing in the wind, the ferry was bouncing over the waves, and I was drenched from the rain and sea spray.

There is so much beauty along that route, I hope you have a chance to see it for yourself.

I got off the ferry and just started walking towards the beach.

Things have changed since the last time I went there, but I knew the route.

I got to the edge of the beach and looked around.

“Left or right” I asked myself.

I turned right, and began to walk along the seawall.

Manly, NSW
July 4, 2019

I love being by the water.

I don’t really like swimming in it, but the walk is always nice.

I was in an area I’ve never been to, so I had to look around specific landmarks to make sure I remembered them in case I got lost (something I am prone to experiencing when I’m in this country).

Manly, NSW
July 4, 2019

As I was wandering up the hills, I stumbled upon this staircase.

I stood at the bottom for a little while. How cool do they look?

These stairs represent everything that is happening to me during my Radical Sabbatical.

There are different flights of stairs that are in front of me right now. I won’t know what’s at the top unless I start climbing them. Sure, the unknown can be scary, but you have no idea what you’re missing until you start climbing!

Is there a flight of stairs that you are standing in front of?

What’s stopping you from the climb?

I hope you find the courage to start and see where it leads.

I climbed the staircase and followed the trail.

There were different vantage points that I found, the view was breath taking!

I found a bench near the third picture (the cliff & waves). I needed to sit down, my feet were killing me.

I looked around at the different people just steps away from me.

A tradie (tradesperson) was leaned over a ledge smoking his cigarette while his workmate eating lunch and blasting music from the truck in the parking lot. A family of tourists were taking a selfie nearby, propping their phone into a tree (their selfie timer game is WAY stronger than mine). A couple of backpackers were lounged out at the vantage point nearby. There was another couple taking a nap in their car in the parking lot.

People watching is so fun.

It is such a privilege to be in a position to just “be” for a little while. I saved for months knowing this might be my reality; now I get to live it.

I have a few things planned this week:

  1. I’ve been going to the gym from 6:00am – 6:45am, Monday – Friday. The people I see always ask me, “why are you here at 6am when you don’t have to?!” They’re right … why am I waking up this early?! I’ll think I’ll start going to the 6:45am sessions.
  2. Two more weeks until the Sutherland2Surf! I’ve never ran more than 10km, let alone in a group of other runners. I need to train hard.
  3. Bar hopping on Friday, that’ll be a good time. My friend from my RSA Course is from New Zealand. She doesn’t really know people around here either; so a couple of wanderers out on the town? Should be a good time.
  4. The family is getting together on Saturday for Happy Hour! A family who likes Day Drinking? These are my peeps!

So, that’s two days planned out.

Everything else is going to be on the fly, I’ll likely plan them out as I walk back home from the gym.

What a life.

Hope you have a great week, friends; can’t wait to tell what happens next!

Onwards,
-Zaighum

I’m STILL (f)unemployed and it’s time to start enjoying it!

“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the most of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.” – Gilda Radner

Taking the Shuttle Bus into the City because there’s Track Work being done in the suburbs.
June 29, 2019

I can’t believe I’ve been (f)unemployed for a month.

I really thought I’d be getting ready to go back to work by now.

It didn’t actually hit me until I was on the bus going home.

I’ve sent 65 Resumes in under two weeks.

That’s right, 65.

Of the 65 resumes I’ve sent out, I’ve had ONE interview (by phone).

Yup, just one.

Both the Talent Acquisition Specialist and I agreed that while the job was perfect for me, I would be spending four hours per day on the train (two hours there, two hours back).

I had no choice but to go back to the drawing boards.

I was devastated.

All of my work experience, all of my education, all of my volunteerism.

Wasn’t that enough? Am I not enough?

Can you believe someone is this distraught about not working?

At the height of my emotional breakdown and identity crisis, I got a surprise phone call from a friend of mine living in Calgary, AB.

We did the usual catch up, then things got real.

He asked me how much I had saved to go on this trip? I brought what the Government of Australia asks Working Holiday Applicants to have in cash (or access to) when you arrive in the country. He asked me if I was alone? I wasn’t, I’m surrounded by family who I can reach within an hour. He asked me if there was food in the fridge? There definitely was. He asked me who I was staying with? I am staying with my cousin and her fiancé.

Then he asked, “then why are you in such a rush to go back to work?”

I was getting frustrated, I began to well up and my voice finally cracked as I said, “because I don’t know who I am without one.”

Without missing a beat, he said, “you did not pack up your life in Canada to just do the same thing in Australia.”

How fortunate am I to have friends who are willing to call me out on my shit?

I know of people who had it far worse when they did their working holiday and just came home early.

That won’t be me.

Sure, I’m not where I had planned to be, but I’m going to be just fine. Everything is falling into place (even though I can’t see it).

Who do you have in your life who can give you the tough love that you need to snap out of your pity party?

Perhaps you might need to give them a call and receive a pep talk.

Maybe you have to give someone a similar talk like the one I just got? I wasn’t expecting it or even asked for it … but oh, did I ever need it!

I’m blessed.

NO … MORE … PITY … PARTIES
June 25, 2019

“Our self-identity should be defined as who we are as individuals. What we do for work is only a piece of our lives.” – Rachael Tulipano

So, I’m pressing pause on actively looking for employment for a little while. My “coffee shop job” isn’t going anywhere after all.

#wearyourpride
June 30, 2019

What am I choosing to do to make the time pass by?

I signed up for a one month gym membership (yes, I did). An acquaintance of mine told me about circuit training that he did at F45 Training. I will be going to the 6am classes, something that I was doing three days a week back home; I’m upping the game to try and do five a week!

I signed up for the 11km run! Sutherland 2 Surf is on Sunday, July 21st! It starts off in Sutherland and takes you all the way down to Wanda Beach in my favourite area Cronulla. I’ve never ran this kind of distance before and I’m so excited to push myself to do reach this new personal achievement!

“Whenever the rainbow appears in the clouds, I will see it an remember the everlasting covenant between God and all living creatures of every kind on the earth.”
Genesis 9:16 (NIV)
Cronulla, NSW
June 26, 2019

In order to get ready for my 11km run, I’ve decided I won’t just walk along my favourite beach … I’ll be running it! You can do a beautiful 10km run by running from South Beach to the Dunes and back. It’s a steady run along the boardwalk with beautiful ocean as far as your eye can see. I can’t wait!

Surry Hills, NSW
June 27, 2019

When I don’t have plans in the shire, you best believe I’ll be going into the city! On Thursday, I went out for coffee and brunch with a new friend. We ended up walking over 23,000kms around the city where we went bar hopping, saw new suburbs I’ve never been to, tried some new eateries, spoke about our education, and we even went dancing in an underground club. I actually enjoyed myself. Like, who am?!

The splitting headache that came the next morning.
June 28, 2019

I have a few items on the to-do list this week:

  1. Go to the Canadian Consulate and request my absentee ballot for our Federal Election (just because I’m in a different country, doesn’t mean I surrender my democratic duty as a Canadian)
  2. Continue to go Church Hopping to find a new community (super tough because a lot of these churches are quite conservative, sigh)
  3. Take my “not so little” cousin out into the city
  4. Buy more socks, another pair of jeans and flannel, it’s about to get colder (I think I’ll go to a few thrift shops for the flannel)
  5. Celebrate Canada Day (without Poutine, sigh)

As I kick off week three of my Radical Sabbatical, I’m retelling the valuable words from my friend Somi in my head:

“Zaighum, you are a human being, not a human doing”.

I hope they can help you on your own journey!

Onwards,
Zaighum

I Don’t Know What I’m Doing, and That’s Okay.

This picture was taken shortly after our Captain said, “Ladies & Gentlemen, we are making our final descent into Sydney”

“It’s better to look back on life and say, ‘I can’t believe I did that,’ than to look back and say, ‘I wish I did that.'” – Unknown

Jet lagged.

I woke up yesterday morning at 2am, then 4am, then 5am, then finally wide awake at 8am.

Sydney, Australia is 17 hours ahead from Vancouver, Canada.

I rolled out of bed and made my way into the kitchen. The kettle was already on, Mark (my cousin’s fiancé) was on the computer a few steps away, and it was time for breakfast. A cup of tea and some toast with honey and peanut butter was my chosen meal. I walked onto the deck and sat at the bottom of the steps. It was hitting me, I was actually here.

I live in Engadine, a suburb in Southern Sydney. Engadine is located about 45 minutes (by train) from the Sydney CBD (Central Business District) in the local government area of the area I grew up in, Sutherland Shire.

Mark’s home is at the end of his street. He put his heart and soul into building it. It’s has four bedrooms, two bathrooms, a massive kitchen with a centre island, and a large living/dining area. The windows allow for the natural light to shine in when there’s sun. The deck looks over the backyard which has swimming pool, granny flat (a rental unit) with private gazebo, and greenery as far as the eye can see. Beside the swimming pool, there is an outdoor kitchen area which Mark and my cousin Lovella call “Banksia Bar”, which has a built in BBQ, full service bar and kitchen, plenty of seating, and even a washroom.

When I opened the cupboard, this was the only mug available. How fitting? It takes a lot of strength to completely disrupt your routine and move to the other side of the world to follow a dream. It’s an accomplishment.
(I need to keep reminding myself that it is an accomplishment)

Once you arrive in Australia, there are two things you need to get in order:

  1. Lodge a request for a Tax File Number (TFN)
  2. Open up a Bank Account

I finished the application for the TFN in a few minutes and was informed I would receive it within 28 Days.

If you do a Working Holiday in Australia, you should open a bank account with nab (National Australia Bank). All you need to open your account is:

  1. Passport
  2. Boarding Pass (from your flight into Australia)
  3. Drivers License
  4. Working Holiday Visa Grant Number
  5. A phone number

Sounds like a simple process, right?

Of course not, because I have to do it.

First, I walked out of the train station and wandered up and down the streets looking for the bank. Google Maps failed to tell me that the bank was inside the mall (sigh). Once I got into the mall, the directory made no sense to me and I wandered the halls for about fifteen minutes. When I finally found the bank, they were lined out the door. Once it got to my turn, I was told the next available appointment with an account manager wouldn’t be for another two hours.

After killing time shopping (which is always dangerous when you do not have a source of income), I went back to the bank for my appointment.

I met James, one of the account manager’s. He was awesome, super personable; kindest guy you’ll ever meet. He recently got married, and him and his wife will be doing a one month trip in South America.

As he was setting up my account, he asked me what I planned to do while in Australia?

He was the first local to ask me that question.

I sat there in front of him and stared at the table between us; the small funds I had brought over with me, my travel documents, and papers to sign scattered across the top.

I looked up at him, unsure what to say.

You see, I have a series of well calculated and politically correct responses to this question. I’ve been giving variations for the last two weeks, perhaps you’ve heard them:

  1. I’m going to go on adventures
  2. Find work that relates to my field of study
  3. Looking to expand my personal and professional life experience
  4. It’s my “eat, pray, love” year
  5. Following my dream of living abroad

The pressure of always having these carefully thought out responses has been exhausting.

I smiled at him. James doesn’t know me. We just met and we will likely never see each other again. I am one of the hundreds of clients he will meet over the next six months, so I had nothing to lose by speaking my truth.

“I don’t know what I’m doing, and that’s okay.”

I paused waiting to see what his reaction was going to be.

“That’s so inspiring, I’m so excited for you!”, he exclaimed.

It was?

Relocating to the other side of the world with a heart full of dreams and nothing lined up is inspiring?

Alright.

I need to allow myself to be okay with where I am at right now.

I cannot start work till July because that marks a new tax year for Australians. I need to revamp my resume and cover letter and begin reaching out to the network that I have built over the last four years to inquire about employment opportunities. I have to read over job opportunities, research the company, prepare questions, and go through an entire application/interview process. I need to be prepared for rejection; one of my biggest fears both personally and professionally.

I need to accept two things: I may not get the jobs that I have hoped for and I may need to settle for the serving job at the local cafe.

These are okay things.

I’ve already broken the traditional narrative that has been laid out for millennial’s to follow:

  1. Get a degree
  2. Get a job
  3. Build your career
  4. Start a family
  5. Buy a house
  6. Plan for retirement

No where in that narrative does it say: go and live.

My friend Somi called me before I flew out and said, “Zaighum, you are a human being, not a human doing.

So I finished my day in my favourite spot in Sutherland Shire, Cronulla Beach. I did my usual routine, walk along the boardwalk and just sit for awhile and just be.

Cronulla Beach, NSW, Australia
(June 18, 2019)

I was walking back to the train after my time of reflection and received a message through Instagram from a colleague I went to College with.

Here’s what she said:

“Hey Zaighum! I know we haven’t talked since our one class at Douglas (which was over five years ago) but I just wanted to say I’m so, so excited for you and this new chapter in your life. I have been following your updates vicariously and I felt the same excitement you felt when I decided to move to Thailand for a year. I know for a fact that you will learn so much about yourself, make life long memories, but more important, meet people that will inspire you. It’s going to be a crazy ride but it will be so worth it in the end. Best of luck, stay safe and simply be in the moment.”

By the moment I got to the end of the message I sat on a park bench with my face in my hands.

I’m not only going to be fine, I’m going to thrive.

So, if you are in a place in your life where you are not sure what the heck you’re doing, please accept these words:

That’s okay.

Onwards,
-Zaighum