The Art of Doing Nothing … on Vacation

I am a planner.

My life (for the most part) is planned to the best of my abilities.

Even the “risks” that I take are very well calculated; I have likely already measured the pros/cons/ups/downs of every situation.

Fortunately, when you’re in a different country than your own … you don’t have a lot of control over things and all of things you try to control turn to shit and a blow up in your face.

Well, at least this has been a learning experience.

There are two things I strongly dislike:

  1. Uncertainty
  2. Wasting time

Life is short, why would I spend it “not knowing what’s next” or sitting around watching the day go by?

I’ve learned during my Radical Sabbatical these types of days are necessary.

You need to be curious and wonder what is coming up next? It keeps you on your toes; it keeps life exciting.

You also need days of doing absolutely nothing and stay inside; and when I say nothing, I mean nothing. No laundry, no dishes, no cleaning, heck – no cooking (every Filipino relative will be clutching their pearls seeing that).

Of all the places to learn about doing nothing, I learned it in the most unusual instance: while on vacation.

Flying over the Northern Territories, Australia
(February 7, 2020)

I’ve been going on weekend getaways that I call my, “Vacation from my Holiday” for the last few weeks.

Back in Canada, I would NEVER go away for the weekend.

I couldn’t fathom it, after all, traveling province to province is super expensive via air travel. I’ve also been in school for so long that weekends were meant for homework.

Yet here I am, in the country of my dreams and for the longest while – working my four days a week, then spending the long weekend I was privileged to negotiate … at home.

So, it was time to travel.

At the start of the year, I kicked off a trip down to Melbourne which was amazing and put a lot of things into perspective; like letting go of money and actually travel around Australia.

I purchased tickets to some areas of the country I had wanted to visit for some time:

  1. Yulara, Northern Territories to see Uluru (Ayers Rock)
  2. Gold Coast, Queensland to take on Australia’s highest external building climb (I don’t know why I do these things, I’m afraid of heights)

Yulara, Northern Territories

My Cousin-in-Law, Mark drove me out to the airport.

While waiting for my flight to take off, I watched this crazy foreigner mansplain to the gate agent how to do her job – screaming at her because he wasn’t aware of Jetstar’s strict 7kg combined carry on baggage weight limit and asked if, “is there was a man who I can speak to?”

Well, I wasn’t have it and I walked over to him as he was screaming at her and said, “Hi, excuse me. Couldn’t help but notice the misogyny over here. She told you to pay the $60 for your excess baggage, just pay it and sit down so we can board the plane.”

I was given an exit seat in the isle with extra leg room and complimentary meal vouchers! Eyyyyyyyyyyy!

(it pays off to speak up when no one else does)

The flight was comfortable, quite spacious as there were not a lot of people on the flight.

However, upon getting out of the plane, my clothes clung to me thanks to the 40 degree Celsius heat.

Not comfortable.

Ayers Rock Airport
Northern Territories, Australia
(February 7, 2020)

The accommodations in Yulara are limited. There are no Airbnb’s (something I wish I knew before I booked the trip), so you have some choices when choosing Ayers Rock Resort – specifically the Outback Pioneer Hotel & Lodge (comfort and best value)

When I walked out of the bus to my hotel, I was greeted by a fly going into my mouth.

Yep.

So apparently, a fly look for moisture wherever it can, hence why they love your face; they want to go into your ears, eyes, nose, and mouth.

How do you protect yourself?

Well, there’s bug spray … but that doesn’t really do anything, so you’re encouraged to wear one of these fashionable fly nets.

Does this Fly Net match my outfit?
Yulara, Northern Territories
(February 7, 2020)
A Fly Net won’t stop me from taking a photo
Yulara, Northern Territories
(February 8, 2020)

Another thing about Yulara is that you pay quite a fee to do just about anything there. There are a couple of free activities; but for the most part, you’re paying for everything (check out Get Your Guide for all the excursions) and at an increased price as deliveries to the area are limited due to its isolated area.

Nevertheless, they rely on tourists to help their economy … so GO!

Prices are based off the peak season; so May – October are the best times to go as the climate is more moderate (Winter is busier than Summer).

There is no need to rent a car, almost every excursion you book has shuttle service from outside your hotel, so it’s important:

  1. To call the company do confirm your booking and time of pick up
  2. To coordinate once more with the front desk as times may have changed

My first excursion of the trip was to see Uluru (Ayers Rock) up close (you also need to buy a $25 pass to visit the rock; it’s a separate cost)!

I’ve heard stories about Uluru from my Grade 2/3 Teacher, Mrs. Williams years ago.

There was a time when you could climb Uluru, however the it became a controversy with the First Nations of the area and you can no longer climb it (which is a good thing, trust me).

Like I said earlier, make sure you purchase your National Park Pass for the days you choose to visit!

My first excursions was to do the Uluru 1.5-Hour Sunset Tour with Sparkling Wine & Cheeseboard.

I opted for this as it was the most affordable and purchased a Pizza and some French Fries when I got back to the hotel (so worth it).

It is CRITICAL that you wear your fly mask when you go to Uluru. Just to get the photo ops was a struggle as the flies were so bad in this area of Yulara.

Smiling had to be timed as they would fly into your mouth if it was open for too long.

The “Yulara Salute” is literally you waving your hands to try and swat away flies as they go near the openings of your face. To protect my open wine glass and mouth from flies, I was chugging wine like nobody’s business.

I was still fortunate to capture some shots before the fly net went back on at Uluru:

Uluru at Sunset (yes, wine included – at least with my excursion)
Uluru, Northern Territories
(February 7, 2020)
Uluru at Sunset (yes, wine included – at least with my excursion)
Uluru, Northern Territories
(February 7, 2020)

The next day, I woke up early for a tour of the Australian Outback with one of the best forms of transport available: Camel.

Boof the Camel
Uluru Camel Tours
Yulara, Northern Territories
(February 8, 2020)

Surprisingly, camels roam in the wild in Australia. They were brought to the county back in the early days of forming for commutes in the outback; delivering mail for Australia Post or doing supply runs for the locals.

They’re able to survive with their population continuing the grow because they’re one of the only animals in Australia that do not have a predator.

It is encouraged that you do not explore the outback without an expert guide, and walking it can be very long and can take a toll on the body – so this camel tour is highly recommended!

Camel Tour
Uluru, Northern Territories
(February 8, 2020)
Uluru Camel Tours
Yulara, Northern Territories
(February 8, 2020)
Camel Tour
Uluru, Northern Territories
(February 8, 2020)

So, here’s the thing about being in Yulara.

It’s hot.

Like, super hot.

I’ve never experienced a place where the moment you walk outside, you instantly begin to sweat (it’s worse than humid Manila, Philippines).

It’s an extremely uncomfortable heat – and as someone who doesn’t like hot weather (I know, and I chose to live in Australia), the heat and I battled it out and I succumbed to it.

So, when I wasn’t busy with an excursion, I did something I’ve never done before on a holiday: I laid in my air conditioned hotel room and did absolutely nothing.

I ordered room service, watched TV shows: re-runs of classic sitcoms, the Democratic Primaries, and random comedy/action/dramatic movies. Then, when I was bored of that, I napped.

I’ve never felt so relaxed on a vacation.

I usually jam pack my holidays with different excursions and adventures, they are times become more exhausting that relaxing.

This is also why I usually travel alone: I want the freedom to do whatever I want, when I want, and not have to compromise.

In the evening, I chose to go on one of Yulara’s most popular excursions: Field of Lights.

The description of the experience from the website is:

“As darkness falls and Uluru is thrown into silhouette, Field of Light illuminates. As far as the eye can see gentle rhythms of colour light up the desert.

The critically acclaimed Field of Light Uluru by the internationally celebrated artist Bruce Munro is on display and due to popular demand, has now been extended indefinitely.

The exhibition, aptly named Tili Wiru Tjuta Nyakutjaku or ‘looking at lots of beautiful lights’ in local Pitjantjatjara is Munro’s largest work to date.

Overwhelming in size, covering more than seven football fields, it invites immersion in its fantasy garden of 50,000 spindles of light, the stems breathing and swaying through a sympathetic desert spectrum of ochre, deep violet, blue and gentle white.”

Now, I cannot really explain just how breathtaking the experience is – but believe me you, it haha we ab experience I won’t forget!

Field of Lights
Yulara, Northern Territories
Field of Lights
Yulara, Northern Territories

The final day of my trip came and after breakfast, I got ready to go back to the airport.

Upon arriving? I was informed that my flight was going to be three hours late and there was a storm in Sydney that has crippled the train system and airlines.

Great.

Ayers Rock Airport
Northern Territories, Australia
(February 9, 2020)

At least I got to cross of the Northern Territories off my list of places to visit in Australia!

Gold Coast, Queensland

Next thing I knew, I was getting ready for my next adventure, a weekend trip to the Gold Coast!

The trip started out as the biggest cluster I’ve ever experienced.

I checked into my flight the night before and packed my bag for the weekend.

I was set to take the first flight out of sydney at 6am, which meant I needed to take the first train at 4am.

Just as I was about to fall asleep, I received a text from the airline saying my flight was canceled due to operational issues and I needed to call the airline to be put on the next available flight.

Now, you’d think calling an airline would be easy at 11pm, right?

Wrong.

I was on hold for 20 minutes and then when the agent greeted me hello, he hung up.

The words that came out of my mouth shortly after cannot be repeated on here … but there was no shortage of me expressing my frustration and dissatisfaction of this experience.

After another 45 minutes of waiting, I was connecting to an agent and booked on the next flight out of Sydney at 10am.

About to board the plane
Sydney Airport
Sydney, NSW
(February 14, 2020)

The flight to the Gold Coast was a quick one. We were placed on a transfer flight going to Seoul, South Korea so we were on a newer plane with comfortable seats and had inflight entertainment.

Cheeky Tarmac Photo
Gold Coast Airport
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 14, 2020)

Once getting off the plane and going through the painful task of clearing customs, I was whisked away into the shuttle, hopped in my rental car, and I was on my way to my first stop!

Jackson and I at his gym: Rivals Athlete Performance Centre
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 14, 2020)

I stopped by a local gym in the Gold Coast and paid a visit to someone very important in my life.

I’ve known this “kid” forever.

I’ve taught him Sunday School, I’ve been his Small Group Leader, I’ve been his Camp Counsellor and I’ve even hung out with him while his folks were at work or out for the evening.

I’ve spent countless nights around the dinner table being teased by him for refusing to use my fingers while eating saucy chicken wings and we’ve battled it out with burping the alphabet.

He has beat me in every physical activity I can think of: Wrestling, Baseball, Basketball, Soccer, Ultimate Frisbee, Badminton … the list could really go on.

Oh, and don’t get me started with badly I’ve lost playing Nintendo Wii against him.

Jackson trained me at his gym. He fixed my form, coached me on technique, and identified opportunities that need to be worked on to avoid injuries.

It was quite a surreal experience!

“Love at First Slice”
Burleigh Heads Beach, Gold Coast
(February 14, 2020)

Of course, after my killer workout, I needed some post workout eats … so I decided to grab a Pizza at Dominos and walk down the the beach.

It was also Valentines Day, so the beach was flooded with couples everywhere I could see.

Believe me you, I was the ONLY single person on that beach.

I was asked by beach goers if I could take photos of them posing in front of sunsets, their picnics, or in the water.

So, I was walking along the beach with my pizza and saw a young woman setting up a display for a couple that was arriving.

So, I asked her to take a photo of my Valentine, the delicious Pizza that isn’t capable of hurting my feelings, just my arteries.

Worth it.

Date Night designed by Make it You’Nique Events
Burleigh Heads Beach, Gold Coast
(February 14, 2020)

I didn’t plan much on my weekend in the Gold Coast.

I had two daytime excursions planned around Surfers Paradise, and that was about it.

A trick to the Gold Coast if you’re renting a car; there is paid parking EVERYWHERE!

BUT!!!!!!!! If you park at the local shopping centre, Pacific Fair, it’s FREE parking for 5 hours! So, I parked there, walked through the mall, then walked out to the G:link (Light Rail) outside and went into Surfers Paradise (yup, I’m that guy).

Surfers Paradise Beach Walk’n
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)

Surfers Paradise was exactly what I thought it would be.

It was packed, there was a sandcastle building competition, and there was no shortage of activities for all ages.

I’ve always said, “I like the beach, I don’t like going in the water.”

So, I saw it, grabbed a photo, then I was out.

The main reason for going to Surfers Paradise was to kill time before my main excursion: do the Skypoint Climb at the Q1 Building!

Group Shot
Skypoint Climb
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)

Some quick stats about the Skypoint Climb:

  • SkyPoint Climb is Australia’s highest external building climb.
  • SkyPoint has one of Australia’s fastest elevators taking you from ground to Level 77 (SkyPoint Observation Deck) in 42.7 seconds, where you will begin the Climb.
  • Once outside, close to 298 stairs will guide climbers up to the summit.
  • The Q1 Spire located at the summit is one of the world’s longest at 97.7m. It commences at level 75, is made up of 12 sections and weighs 87.2 tonnes.
  • The Q1 Building itself, is taller than the Chrysler building in New York City, and is structurally the 25th tallest building in the world at 322.5 metres high!
  • SkyPoint is Australia’s only beachside Observation Deck.
Skypoint Climb
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)
Skypoint Climb
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)

The funny thing is, I’m really afraid of heights.

I get really nervous and shakey – not to the point of pukingbut definitely close to passing out.

Skypoint Climb
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)

So, we all had a good laugh at the front desk when the staff greeted me and welcomed me to my experience.

Jasmine (our guide) said, “Welcome to the Skypoint Climb, Mr. Punzalan! What brings you here today?”

I looked at her and her staff and just said, “I just wanted the photo for Instagram.”

This is my life.

Skypoint Climb
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 15, 2020)

While I was one the climb, I was in front of a couple celebrating one of their birthdays, the big 60!

We got to talking and they asked me where I was going to go next after this.

I wasn’t sure.

I didn’t plan anything else after climbing the Q1, I was okay with this whole “doing nothing” and seeing where the day goes.

They explained one of the interesting things about the Gold Coast is how it’s border works.

While the Gold Coast is in Queensland, there are area around the Gold Coast that are actually in New South Wales; which not only represents a different state, but also a different timezone!

I asked if they had any recommendations for me to do after our climb?

They live in Byron Bay, which is about 1.5 south of the Gold a Coast, in New South Wales.

I’ve heard about Byron Bay, a very popular tourist attraction for the beaches, lighthouse, and a direct lookout point to where Captain Cook arrived.

There’s that saying, “when you’re not sure what do to on vacation, do as the locals do.”

Well, they told me to check out Byron Bay and I chose to do as the locals do, so, I hopped in the car (making it just 10 minutes shy of the 5 hour mark, so my parking was still free), and made the drive down!

There was no traffic on the scenic drive towards Byron. It was funny seeing my phone switch an hour due to the time change.

I did what you’re supposed to do any drive: music blasting, windows down, and on cruise control enjoying the views around me.

I got to Byron Bay and found parking (after driving around for 20 minutes for an available spot).

Cape Byron walking track
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)

I did the Cape Byron walking track (which I underestimated as I was wearing the wrong shorts/shirt/shoes for an outdoor hike in 36 degree weather).

Cape Byron walking track
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)

The views were unlike anything I had seen before.

As I walked around, I realized that I wouldn’t have seen this had I done what I usually did and “planned” my entire trip to the very last detail.

Cape Byron walking track
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)

That’s the thing about “doing nothing” on a vacation.

You give space for the unexpected, the spontaneous, the surprises to happen.

It’s okay to ask the locals once you arrive, “what do you recommend we do?”

You’ll be surprised what they recommend.

It really is an art.

Capy Byron Lighthouse
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)

As I continued down the walking path, I got to a fence and sat there watching the waves crashing against the rocks below.

I tried to position my phone to get the best angle to grab a selfie when a local scuba instructor saw me standing there and asked me if I wanted to walk down with him so he could show me a better vantage shot.

One of the things I’ve learned while being on holidays is to give my phone to anyone who is willing to take a photo for me.

Cape Byron walking track
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)
Cape Byron walking track
Byron Bay, NSW
(February 15, 2020)

And, just like that, it was time to go home … fortunately the flight home from the Gold Coast was much better than the flight going there.

I always try and sneak a photo on the tarmac … worth it every time
Gold Coast, Queensland
(February 16, 2020)

The next week, I received a surprise message from my aunt that my beloved Granny was brought back to Australia after three months in the Philippines.

I’ve said from the beginning, my Granny is the reason God paved a way for me to come back to Australia and spend some more time with her while she still has time on this earth.

I love this woman with all my heart
#GrannyAndMe
Sydney, NSW
(February 23, 2020)

Question time:

When is your next vacation?

What would happen if you left space in your itinerary to:

  1. Do absolutely nothing
  2. Do as the locals do

You’ll be surprised what can come out of your vacation when you plan less and just let things happen – oh, and say hello to everyone; you never know how far a hello can go.

We likely had the worst scorecard of everyone there
(I lost both rounds, but I won the night)
Holey Moley Golf Club
Newtown, NSW
(February 22, 2020)

It’s been working out for me so far.

Onwards,
Zaighum

(100 Days left in Australia … yikes)

For Such a Time as This

Sydney Central Business District (CBD)
Sydney, Australia

Last week, I went back to work for the first time in over two months.

I woke up at 4:30am, showered and did my hair, packed my change of clothes and lunch, and walked to the gym.

I showed up to the first gym session at 5:15am.

After the 45 minute workout, I quickly washed my body and changed into work clothes.

I walked out of the shower facility and was met with cheers from my Gym Family.

They haven’t seen me outside gym clothes, they were just as excited to go on this big adventure as I was.

I got to the train station at by 6:15am and waited for the train to arrive just after 6:30am (express trains from where I am run every thirty minutes until 8am).

I reached the the next train station by 7:20am and I walked 10 minutes down the street to the office.

8:00am, the clock started and it was time to work.

I was welcomed to the team with open arms (literally, because they’re huggers) and was given a list of things to do.

After my day was over at 5:00pm, I made the commute home and walked through the door just after 7:00pm.

I made dinner, cleaned up, and was in bed by 9:00pm.

Rinse and repeat for five days; it was exhausting.

I was excited for my first week to be finished and find out what the next adventure would be.

And then I got a job offer to stay.

While flattered that they were willing to keep me on, I politely declined.

My goal with re-entering the workforce is to avoid working eight hours a day or five days a week – nor do I want to spend my day commuting. After all, these were the things that I did back in Canada which contributed to my decision to drastically change my life by packing up and moving overseas to embark on a new path.

I also have to keep in mind that my income in Australia will be taxed in Canada (sigh) … that’s right friends, double the taxes!

I just wanted a job where I can meet new people, experience a new industry, and fund my trip to explore new areas I haven’t been to.

I was going to apply to be a server at this really neat burger place a few towns over called Grill’d – they have a Beyond Burger which is to die for.

Grill’d Healthy Burgers
The Beyond Burger

Before I could stop by the restaurant and apply (and sink my teeth in that Beyond Burger), I was approached by the company I had done temporary work for and was offered everything I wanted while working in Australia (hours, flexibility, rate) in exchange for my background and expertise in operations, processes, systems, organization, and leadership.

I sat down with the Owner and the General Manager and discussed what the needs were. We discussed how I had over 200 applications rejected during my job search and then I was randomly put into this temporary placement. Just when they needed someone to come in and support them in reaching their organizational goals, I arrived.

I got up and gave them both a hug, I’ll be back to work on September 2nd and stay until the next great adventure makes itself available.

“And who knows but that you have come to this place for such a time as this?”

Esther 4:14 (NIV)

The last few weeks, I’ve been wresting with my decision of packing up my life and coming to Australia?

Why was I so compelled to leave a career that I loved, a stable income, a limited but happy social life, and all the comforts of being home?

Of all the times to be in Australia, why did everything fall into place for me to be here right now?

And then last night I found out my 90 Year Old Granny living with Dementia was being brought back to Australia from the Philippines.

The last time I saw her was at our 2018 Punzalan Family Reunion in September to celebrate her birthday and I left the Philippines wondering if I would ever see her again.

So, I got up early and took the train to the airport and waited at the arrival gate for her.

She came down the arrival gate and I ran up the ramp, tears streaming down my face as I broke down on my knees holding her frail hands. She stared at my face, placed her hands on my cheek and then she smiled with her toothless grin. She asked me how my mother was, and asked me, “did you come here to see me?” She remembered that I’m from Canada and used to sing for her.

As I pushed her wheelchair to the car, I realized she is the reason why I am here. I am here, during this season, to be around her, for such a time as this.

The opportunity to build on my career isn’t going anywhere – I can always go back to that.

For now, I will continue to embrace this season of rest and self-discovery during my Radical Sabbatical.

Most importantly, I will enjoy this time to be with my family and this exciting opportunity to create more memories with this wonderful woman in my life.

Sydney Kingsford Smith International Airport
Sydney, Australia
August 25, 2019

While I’m on the topic of significant moments in Australia, I got really big news this past Thursday!

Back Story:

When I first landed, I set up a meeting with my previous employer at their Australia office. During our conversation, I quickly realized I would be walking away from the office for the last time as there was no room for me on their team.

I got into the train and cried the entire ride home.

It was time for a career change, I needed to let go of the company that I had served with all my heart for almost six years and let go this idea of going back to work for them at this time in my life.

This experience forced me into this unique opportunity to embark on a new career path and while I was scared shitless of the idea of pursuing it, I knew that everything I had gone through prepared me for such a time as this.

So, I went to an Education Counsellor in the city who specialized in International Students and I applied for a program that I had wanted to pursue for sometime and meet my goal to achieve my Masters by the age of 30.

Present Day:

I’ve been accepted into the Masters of Social Work (Qualifying) with the Australia College of Applied Psychology in February 2021!

ACCEPTED!!!
August 22, 2019

Pretty cool for someone who has only been here for two months, eh?!

Oh, I celebrated my 2nd Month in Australia!!!

Sydney Harbour Bridge
Sydney, Australia
August 17, 2019

To celebrate month number two:

My day started out for breakfast at Royale Speciality in Surry Hills. Royale Specialty prides itself as Surry Hill’s first espresso bar devoted to serving only natural process coffee.

For those coffee connoisseurs out there:

“The natural process, also known as the dry process, is a back-to-basics approach that stems from Ethiopia. The fruit is left on the bean, and there’s little disruption to the coffee while it dries. It requires certain climatic conditions & investment by the farmers to ensure the drying of the fruit and seed in time. This process can create the most flavourful coffees with interesting notes and characteristics. Well picked and processed natural coffee can bring out incredible cupping notes, and offer consumers amazing sweet flavours with some naturals tasting more like a tropical fruit salad or fruit compote than coffee. And what’s more, natural coffee is the most eco friendly way of processing coffee as it is produced without water.”

Then, I visited the Zensation Tea House in Waterloo.

The moment I walked in, I was overwhelmed with a sense of peace.

A vinyl record of some of Elton John’s best hits were playing in the background.

The aroma of Dim Sum, Noodles, Buns, and sweet desserts filled the air. Maybe its because of how hungry I’ve been while on the F45 Eight Week Challenge (which is almost done) but that was what I smelled first.

I couldn’t eat any of it (sigh) so I sat at a table and looked at the Tea Menu.

There were pages and pages of options, some teas I have heard of and tasted and others I have not.

I settled for the Milky Oolong Tea imported from Alishan, Taiwan.

According to the menu:

“This full leaf tea derives its name from the creamy and buttery scent while the palette is light with peach, gardenia and hints of coconut. This can be attributed to the tea grown at high altitude. A truly complex and luxurious infusion with light honey colour and smooth aftertaste.”

I kid you not, it was one of the best teas I ever had (I drank five pots worth).

After I had my tea, I walked over to Rosebery and visited a place called The Cannery. While it isn’t as cool as Lonsdale Quay in North Vancouver, there are several local eateries, desserts, and vendors to experience.

The Cannery
Rosebery, NSW

One place that really stood out while I was in the area was Archie Rose Distilling Co. which offers tours and tastings throughout the day and of course a full service bar. I love my Whiskey, and you best believe I’ll be stopping by here sometime in September!

Archie Rose Distilling Co.
Rosebery, NSW

So, friends – take a moment and consider these points in your own life:

  • Instead of whining out in despair, why me?!assertively ask yourself, why me? (do this out loud)
  • Reflect on the last three to five years – have there been specific events that have lead up to this moment in your life?
  • If you are a person of prayer, a vision board maker, or someone who speaks out daily affirmations or manifestations; is what’s happening to you in this moment something you’ve been seeking all along?

I hope no matter what situation you are currently finding yourself in, you can pause and reflect if what you have been experiencing is supposed to prepare you for such a time as this.

Onwards,
-Zaighum

My First Month

“You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”

– Unknown
Luna Park
North Sydney, NSW
July 17, 2019

I celebrated my one month in this country by visiting Luna Park, a restored 1930’s amusement park that is on the corner of the Sydney Harbour.

My favourite ride was the Hair Raiser, it’s so funny seeing people’s hair before and after the ride (although, my hair has plenty of volume due to my round brush, blow dry and four product routine; it also doesn’t move).

Once you’re strapped into your seat, you are slowly brought up 50 metres above sea level for a bird’s eye view of the Sydney Harbour before being dropped over 80kms towards the ground.

I’ve never been much for heights, but I do enjoy amusement park rides.

I’ve been fortunate to be surrounded by my family, I haven’t lived with them since I was ten years old. We are getting re-aquatinted and learning who we are in this current stage of our lives. I don’t remember every night I’ve shared with them as we like to share a few beverages.

(Oh, and they’ve taught me how to drink wine; no more Moscato for me)

My cousin, Lovella and her fiancé, Mark have been extremely supportive. Not only have they given me a place to live, but we spend a lot of time together. We celebrate my mini milestones, we share meals together, watch shows on the couch, and go into the city the odd time.

They have kept my mind busy so I don’t always get lost in my head; it has made this season of self discovery so much easier.

My cousin, Lovella & I
Darling Harbour, NSW
July 12, 2019

There is a vantage point in North Sydney that looks over Sydney Harbour, and isn’t congested with tourists like Circular Quay. I’ve always looked at from the other side, but never took the time to go over. With all of my free time, it was time to check it out.

I found some park benches over looking the water, so I sat down and reflected on my first month here.

Sydney Harbour Bridge
(taken from North Sydney)
July 17, 2019

I am still trying to grasp that I’m actually in Australia and that I have been here for a month.

I have realized this trip is turning into a journey of deep learning: addressing insecurities I have suppressed, hurt that I have not dealt with and accepting my life for where it currently is.

Here are three things that I have had to let go of since being here:

  1. Letting go of Expectations:
    • Expectation: I had everything planned out in my head the moment I landed – go on a road trip, find a job, meet new people, make some friends.
    • Reality: My road trip fell through, I’ve sent out almost 150 applications and have been rejected by them all, I have not met a lot of people, I only have three friends (who have their own lives); goodness these days have been somewhat lonely.
  2. Letting go of my Career:
    • Expectation: I was going to be the guy who got the “Golden Opportunity”. Took the risk to follow my dream of living in Australia and continue to build on the career I had worked so hard to establish.
    • Reality: Now that I have been (f)unemployed for almost two months, I’m beginning to see this entire experience as the disruption that was needed for me to break out of what I was doing and discover what I am truly meant to do; I’ll get back to you on that one.
  3. Letting go of People who Belong in the Past:
    • Expectation: I have held onto the odd chance that there may be a “pick up where we left off” moment, where things will go back to how they used to be. I have kept text messages from significant people from my journey that go as far back as 2014, waiting for the day I see a “hello”.
    • Reality: They aren’t coming back and things will never be the same. These individuals chose to walk away, we don’t even talk anymore (and the off chance that we do, I realize that keeping them in my life is not helping me move forward), and I don’t even live in the same country as them anymore. It shouldn’t be this difficult to let go.

I have found myself looking back at the last year and have asked myself:

“What if I had done that differently?”

“What if I had just spoken up?”

“What if I said this instead?”

“What if I had just given them space?”

Looking back at that chapter of my life has done me no favours.

There have been moments where I have felt like the ground beneath my feet is imploding and I find myself facing a complete meltdown. There have been moments of crying on the train, in the middle of the city, or on the beach; each time frustrated with my struggle to let go.

Sometimes I don’t make it out of the house and I lay on the couch reading a book or binge a Netflix Original Series all day.

I continue to struggle with the “who am I” question.

Who am I without my career, without my friends, without the things I have been holding onto, without my structure, without my routine?

I have felt so lost in my search for my identity.

Identity Crisis at 26 … yikes.

I don’t like feeling this way, yet I know deep down that all of this is supposed to be happening the way it is and this is all going to shape me into who I’m supposed to be.

As I begin to let go of the control that I have been so desperate to hold onto, I have noticed things are slowly falling into place right before me.

Friends, dealing with your shit is not easy.

It can be scary, exhausting, difficult, heartbreaking, and a whole lot of other things.

In order for growth to happen, it may be necessary to go through them.

Perhaps if you deal with it now, you won’t feel so lost in your head, have an identity crisis that triggers a major meltdown, and move to the other side of the world to find yourself?

(It’s okay for that to happen too)

Reflection Time:

  1. How do you deal with your shit?
  2. What do you need to let go that’s holding you back?

Now that you’ve caught a glimpse of the not so fun part of my journey, let me tell you what has been keeping me energized!!!

F45 Engadine
Engadine, NSW
July 17, 2019

With all of my free time and the need for face-to-face conversations, I have been regularly attending my local F45. We do 45 Minutes circuit training, focusing on cardio on Monday/Wednesday/Friday and functional strength training on Tuesday/Thursday.

I wake up at 6:00am, leave the house by 6:20am, walk the fifteen minutes to the gym to attend the 6:45am session. Finish at 7:30am, do some stretches then slowly walk back home.

I was given a shoutout by the team recently, doing the one thing I dread the most.

Weight Training.

Going to the gym has been giving me something to do, forcing me to do something productive with my time, even if it’s just for 45 Minutes out of my day. It’s been quite cathartic and is helping me reach some personal goals.

It has also helped burned off the carbs and alcohol that has snuck into my diet.

Poutine at BL Burgers
Darlinghurst, NSW
July 12, 2019

I … FOUND … POUTINE!

I was in Darlinghurst watching a Comedy Sketch by a local Drag Queen before meeting up with my cousin in Darling Harbour.

As I was walking towards the harbour, I was reading all of the different menus advertised outside the restaurants along the strip and saw poutine on one of the menus.

I turned back around to double check if I had read it correctly.

It was correct, this place sold poutine!

I have a weakness for poutine, had one the day before I left for Australia because I did not think I would be able to eat one for a whole year.

I walked up the owner, and asked my usual questions when I see poutine being advertised on the menu:

  1. What is the gravy base?
    • It was mushroom
  2. Do you use actual cheese curds?
    • They did (well, they were tiny … but it did the trick)

I didn’t waste anytime, I gave them my money and waited.

When it arrived, I snapped my picture and then took the first bite.

Heaven.

Now, it isn’t exactly the way it tastes back home. The seasoning is a bit different on the french fries, the cheese curds are small, and it almost tasted like the salt shaker broke and the contents fell into my box … BUT it’ll do for now.

Pre-Race Photo
Engadine, NSW
Sutherland2Surf
July 21, 2019

I spent the last month training for an 11km Run!

The only organized runs I’ve ever participated in were the Scotia 5km and the BMO 8km back in Vancouver.

So, signing up for an 11km was a big stretch.

I was determined to do it, it was something I had never done before and one of my goals on my Radical Sabbatical was to try new things.

There is something special about the Running Community. Everyone shows up on race day with the same common purpose; finish the race.

There’s the final five minutes, the organizers blast the pump up music and people begin to toss their Throwaway Gear.

I always start to tear up at this moment, not sure why.

I play two songs before I do any run (the actual or training):

  1. Where The Streets Have No Name: U2
  2. We Built this City: Rocketship

The Sutherland2Surf is quite interesting. You run through the following suburbs within the Sutherland Shire:

  • Sutherland
  • Kirrawee
  • Gymea
  • Miranda
  • Caringbah
  • Woolooware
  • Cronulla

There are people throughout the race route cheering you on.

High fives are given out, kids have noise makers, and there is camaraderie on the course by fellow runners.

As I made my way towards the final stretch, the crowds got bigger and bigger, it was quite the spectacle for our little beach suburb.

My final time was 1:07, beat what I had expected to do by 8 Minutes.

There was a familiar face at the finish line after I got my medal.

Ronald McDonald and I
Sutherland2Surf 2019
Wanda Beach, Cronulla, NSW

The Maccas (McDonald’s) Owner Operators of Sutherland Shire are official sponsors of Sutherland2Surf.

I will always love my McLife and am embracing my new role as a “McDAlumni”. It was pretty special to see representation in my new community of Sutherland Shire; something I was fortunate to lead back in Metro-Vancouver.

And so, I look forward to the next eleven months that are ahead of me.

I have no idea what is going to happen next: where will I work, who will I meet, what will I experience, or what I’ll learn?

What I do know is I won’t be able to experience any of it if I continue to re-read a chapter of my life that I cannot re-write.

It’s time to turn the page.

Onwards,
-Zaighum

You’ve Got Mail!

“I get mail; therefore I am.” – Scott Adams

If only you were in the room when I got my first letter (you’d be handing me kleenex)

I was sitting at the centre island looking through job postings with Mark walked into the house with an envelope in his hand.

“You’ve got mail!”

I looked at him, slightly puzzled.

“What do you mean, ‘I have mail?'” I pondered to myself.

It hit me.

I HAVE MAIL!

That envelope was mine, and really, it couldn’t have come sooner.

It was my bank card.

I stared at the envelope in my hand; my name above my Australian address.

Celebrate the little things, right?

It wasn’t a little thing to me though, this was BIG!

I now have the following:

  1. Phone Number
  2. Address
  3. Transit Pass
  4. Bank Account
  5. Tax File Number (TFN)
  6. Unique Student Identifier (USI)
  7. Responsible Service of Alcohol (RSA) Certificate
  8. Responsible Conduct of Gambling (RCG) Certificate

Trust me, you want an Australian Phone Number when you are here. Pre-Paid Plans are cheap and data is super generous (believe me, choose Telstra). Oh, and if you start looking for work, you need one.

Your mail needs to go somewhere. For example, government documents or bank cards must be sent to a residential address. Any other mail can be sent to a post office box if you have one. Also, you need to continuously update your address on your visa site in case the Government needs to reach you.

To get around, Transport Sydney is your best mode of transportation. The locals have mixed feelings towards it, I think it’s AMAZING. I’ve had the same Opal Card since 2015; “Tap On, Tap Off” was here long before Compass in Vancouver.

I opened a $0 Fee Monthly Account with nab and just got my Debit/Visa within a week. It’s nice to not have to carry cash everywhere or keep it in an envelope under the bed.

Before you start working, you need to get a Tax File Number so you can be taxed at the right rate. Failure to get one can make the Australian Government tax you at the highest Tax Bracket. Oh, this is super important if you are “temporarily leaving Canada”, the Canadian Government taxes your income being earned while abroad (gross).

When you take a nationally recognized training course, you need a Unique Student Identifier through the Australian Government. It helps ensure all records for the same person in the collection stays together, regardless of which training provider delivers the training. Without one, you cannot get your certificate or other evidence of your nationally recognized training outcomes.

Many hospitality jobs in Sydney require you to hold BOTH a valid RSA & RCG certification in accordance to Liquor & Gaming NSW.
Suck it up. Get both.

So this next one is quite fun. One of the best places to work (in my humble opinion) when you’re a traveler is at a local RSL (The Returned & Services League of Australia). These clubs are everywhere in Australia! You can hear the “Pokie Machines” (poker machine/slot machine) ringing throughout the club. There’s usually gym services/spas for members to use. Oh, and of course there is plenty to eat and drink. To work in these facilities, you need to hold a RSA/RCG Certificate. These courses are usually offered at a local site for about six hours (or do both in a day in twelve; not thanks). It’s delivered a workshop setting. You attend, learn, participate, write a final test and if you pass, you walk away certified!

Your boy just got BOTH of them!

Post Night Class Reward

Once you get need your temporary certificates in your email, print them and bring them to your local ServiceNSW Office. Don’t forget to show your Passport & Driver Licence for ID (they need to match whatever is going to be on the RSA/RCG Card, get your photo taken (best believe I’ll be doing my hair for that), and in four weeks (yay, another piece of mail) you’ll have a special ID Card that shows hospitality employers that you are certified and eligible to work for them. The card must be on me at all time when I’m working and you must present it upon request to Liquor & Gaming Officers or the NSW Police if they are on the premises; see, you really do need to be certified!

Well, that’s what I got so far! It’s just after 1am and I have a busy rest of the week ahead.

Next on the “to-do” list, figure out when I’m going to Melbourne?

Oh, and I also got over the flu thanks to the classic Filipino Remedy I grew up on, “Bicks”.

I’m on the mend!

Until the next update!

Onwards,
Zaighum